Ongoing cheating what should I do?
I have been with my current boyfriend on and off for about 6 years. He has sent nudes to men and women multiple times and each time I’ve found out by accidentally seeing it or going through his messages. This has occurred around 4-5 times that I have caught and he just recently did it while away on a vacation. He told me he has an addiction to wanting to send pictures to other people and he feels ashamed to tell me when he feels these urges which I have told him before to tell me if he ever feels like he wants to do it again. Problem is that after I found out he cheated again he then had the audacity to do it the very next day as well after I found out about the pictures while he was on vacation. I feel stuck because I love him and want to see myself married to him because he’s my best friend but I don’t see how this will ever change. I know I deserve better but cannot imagine starting over and losing not only him but his family too. He’s helped me through the worst times in my life but I also feel like I put more effort into the relationship than he does and I don’t gain anything from it. I don’t think I have set in place boundaries that I need and he just keeps doing it because he knows I will not leave him. He sounds like he regrets it but if he regretted it why would he do it again the very next day after I found out. I know every-time we have been on a break no matter how long it had been he would always right away start asking people or sending nudes even without people asking for them. I just don’t know how to regain trust if he isn’t willing to be honest with me. Where do I go from here?
2 comments posted: Saturday, January 17th, 2026
