It all feels very real and scary

Hi I'm in the UK and starting the process of mediation and then divorce. Found out 15 weeks ago husband was having an affair (whilst I was 12 weeks pregnant and we have a 3 year old). He was telling me he wanted to make things work again but then 2 weeks ago I found out he has been continuing to see the affair partner. So that's when I made the decision we are over for good. I am now 27 weeks pregnant and had my mediation assessment yesterday. It is all just so overwhelming and I can't get my head around how it is all going to work with the house etc when I am going to be giving birth in a few months time. I don't really have a question as such just looking for solidarity as I am finding myself lying here in bed crying again.

0 comment posted: Saturday, June 13th, 2026

It's been nearly a week

So almost a week ago I discovered messages that were evidence of my husband having an affair. I confronted him and he had to admit it because of what I had found. The day before I found out we had been for our 12 week baby scan and I was on top of the world. It's mad to think how 24 hours later my whole world came crashing down. We also have a toddler. He has been living with his parents all week and initially kept just saying sorry but now he is being really cold and formal and only messaging me regarding seeing our toddler. I have been off work this week and am off next week too as I am really struggling and I am constantly crying. He hasn't told his parents the full truth and I think he has really minimised what has happened I first found messages between him and this women last summer but he convinced me it was just flirty banter amd promised to cut all contact with her yet here we are. He said this affair started at Christmas but I don't believe it. I am just devastated, feel worthless and hopeless and terrified for the future especially as I am pregnant.

57 comments posted: Saturday, March 14th, 2026