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I have been married for 38+ years.
Four weeks ago my husband wanted to try out Viagra and asked me if I would participate. This was totally out of character - he never takes medications, not even paracetamol. After success with the Viagra and his wife of 38+ years I joked about him not taking the blue pills on his forthcoming business trip to SE Asia but he did not joke. He said he might take them and did not deny that he might have sex with someone.
Two weeks ago he flew to Singapore for his two-week business trip. On arrival in Singapore I asked him yet again if he was in or out of this marriage because I was confused. Eventually, after the fourth question, he said 'out'.
I was devastated. I did not see this coming. Now he is spending the two-week period travelling around with a particular young woman, half his age, from east Asia. He does not want contact with me. We had two conversations but they were unsatisfactory, bad signal etc. He just said he wanted his freedom and no control and that he has done nothing wrong.
He will be 70 this year and I think this is some sort of crisis and awareness of his mortality. But I also wonder whether it could be a more serious cognitive problem - he seems to be quite literally 'losing his mind'.
4 comments posted: Friday, March 20th, 2026
