I've taken this to far. I need honest genuine help.

I love my wife. Together 10 years. Married 5.
Things were great in the beginning. But as time went on, we had a daughter, and we became more house mates that had sex once or twice every year quarter. Bickering has always existed between us.
Last year we my wife got pregnant for the 2nd time. Which was something we wanted. Then a few months later panic and stress filled my wife regarding money, how will we cope. This sent her into a very distant and grumpy person. On top of that, she no longer wanted me to kiss, touch let alone have sex with her. She felt undesirable, and began pushing me away.
On several occasions I was told to go and find someone who will want you (although I believe she was bluffing, it put the question in my head) maybe I do still have it to attract someone else!?
So I went onto Fabswingers and had a snoop about. I was amazed! I had several women approaching me over the course of 8 months. Then I met Sarah. We went for a dinner and then had an overnight at the restaurant. This was the moment I panicked.

Sarah and I got on far to well for two people looking for casual FWBs it felt fresh and completely natural together. This was Early march. Since then we have met up several times, for lunch, dinner, overnights and just general chit chat getting to know eachother.

My wife and I had a sit down talk and I explained that although I still love her. I don't know if we're both In Love with eachother. I feel disconnected from my wife. I imagine it's just because it's new and exciting with Sarah that it feels this way. But what can I do!? I love my wife, and I crave the time I get with Sarah.

I can't leave my wife. She's pregnant and doesn't deserve this.
I never intended for it to get like this.

Neither woman knows of the other. Sarah believes I am married but separated.

Unknown to me until recently, Sarah has also gone through Terrible relationships in the past and is slow to trust. Yet with me she says she feels completely safe and secure.

I am so stuck. I want them to fuse together and become one person.

2 comments posted: Tuesday, May 5th, 2026