Still trying to get through I day at a time.me:54F at DD, 27/02/26. M 32 years, together 36 years.
Talk some sense into me!
10 weeks post DD, 32 year M. I immediately moved out ( he wouldnt) and said I want a divorce. We had a few stand up yelling matches, followed by a calmer period of low contact. He's always been an angry, negative man, angry at the world, throws temper tantrums and has a different set of rules for each of us. Woe betide I should ever raise my voice, and apparently I "always" make myself out to be the victim. He's definitely emotionally immature. I probably am too. The only reason he can give me for what he did is that it because I was emotionally unavailable. He also can't tell me whether he loves her ( also married, 2 young kids) or not.
So WHY ON EARTh am I petrified now that I've made a mistake by moving so fast to end things?
When I caught him I thought he'd respond with anger. He hasn't. He's given me space, he's been reasonable,is making real effort to reestablish his relationship with our adult daughter. Says I can move back in.
I'm so scared that he's had a massive wake-up call, fixes himself and after 36 years of taking his crap he becomes the man I always kneew he could be. While I sit on the side and live my lonely, miserable life.
Help! I need clarity.
3 comments posted: Tuesday, May 12th, 2026
