Years of Infidelity
My wife had a 10 year on and off sexual relationship with her boss. 10 years of gaslighting, partial disclosures, denials and turning blame back on me. She's had other affairs as well. The always suspecting and never being sure has eaten me alive all these years.
Very recently I sat down and started writing down everything i've observed over the years. Her exhibitionism, her flirting with the boss, late night "business dinners" that went past midnight, getting on birth control when she and I couldnt be together (I had depression and ED) . There were overheard sexual jokes between them when i'd call during a "business dinner". When she returned from a "business trip" I found the only sleepwear she had packed was a sexy open-side nightie. Early on she treated me like shit because I had developed severe anxiety and ED because she originally had vaginismus and we couldnt be together. She cured herself with her boss. She complained about sexual frustration constantly until one day after a late night business dinner, she stopped.
All this and much more I wrote down and it finally was obvious. And all I felt was peace . I wasn't crazy. I wasn't imagining things. It was like waking up from a decade long nightmare.
Wishing you all the best.
1 comment posted: Monday, May 25th, 2026
