I'm a BS and broken....WH EA and possible PA for 2 years. DD 05/24. WH and coworker. Absolute denial of any wrongdoing. I'm in trauma therapy. Feeling trapped due to needs of kids.Me 48Him 484 neurodiverse kids 28,20,18 & 15
Emotional affairs - denials, gaslighting, and minimisation
My WH had a 2 year EA with a coworker which may have become physical (multiple hotel stays together and work trips spent at her home) but I'll never know that much. I knew nothing about this at the time.
He has denied everything and blamed my old fashioned views on opposite gender friendships, my over-sensitivity, and history of anxiety on his decision to hide it.
Every discussion turns into him being the victim and me being the unreasonable, controlling wife.
I'm in trauma therapy, trying to deal with the betrayal but getting nowhere. I know I'm being gaslit but I have no strength to fight him. My children are neurodivergent and going through massive transitions in education therefore I'm trapped here. I'm so lonely and broken.
Please tell me this will get easier. Any advice welcome
0 comment posted: Friday, May 29th, 2026
