Day 3 after D Day
Hey recently joined the club so sorry if I dont have the acronyms down yet.
Ive had a wonderful blessed 2 and a half years of marriage until July 8th 2026. I was feeding our son breakfast and my wife came downstairs obviously upset. After breaking down and a bit of pushing she finally told me while crying that she cheated on me before our marriage. She finally told me who it was and I immediately had my entire life fall apart. I know this man, I worked with this man (we were in the same industry). And he was always so nice to me and I knew that they communicated allot for work for years and thought it might be getting to the point of being inappropriate a few times and got in fights with her about it. She quit her job to be a stay at home mom 6 months ago and well congratulations she got pregnant about 3 months ago. So I have a partner who cheated on me twice had full blown intercourse but apparently she can't remember if they did it the second time or not 8 months apart. He lives in a different state far away which helps me have some trust that it wasn't a frequent affair.
I was absolutely gutted, the amount of emotions I was spiraling through and emotions I have never been exposed to. Its been an absolute nightmare. I didn't sleep for 36 hours and felt wide awake. I couldn't eat I could barely think. My entire life collapsed before my eyes. I got a therapist to take me in yesterday and that was helpful.
The hardest part is not having anyone to talk to. I don't want to put our business out to friends or family because of two reasons. 1. Its incredibly embarrassing and 2 I need to make the decision of staying and reconciliation or divorce. This is my absolute worst nightmare. Most of the help content are from women no offense but I need a mans perspective to help at all. Anyway this is just my story and I can't believe its happening and if anyone wants to reach out I'd welcome it or any good resources from a males perspective that would be great.
1 comment posted: Saturday, July 11th, 2026
