Please help me.. BH doesn’t speak to me at all
Hello, thank you for taking the time to read and respond to this.
It’s been 9 weeks since the final D Day. I have more details in my profile as well.
My BH (betrayed husband) hasn’t been talking to me at all. It’s been a week since I’d been messaging him good morning, good night, and logistics. He doesn’t respond. I’ve stopped all the silly messages just yesterday.
We’re on week 6 of an affair recovery program but he was very adamant that he wanted to do it for closure. I wanted him to keep an open mind but he said no. A friend of his also encouraged him to do the program for his own healing. But he stopped after just 4 weeks. He didn’t attend the 5th meeting and today is the 6th.
I’m struggling. We own a home and two pets together. We’re still living together. But I feel paralyzed and frozen.
I just want to talk to him and hug him and comfort him.
What can I do to help him heal?
What things helped your betrayed spouse feel safe again?
I want us to rebuild so badly 😔 I miss him.
2 comments posted: Tuesday, September 22nd, 2026
