WW filed for D, moved out, zero remorse—is R ever possible or am I grasping at straws?
Hey everyone, I’m newly finding myself here and looking for some perspective and blunt truth from veterans who have walked this road.
Some back story, WW and I have been together for 7 years, married for 1.5. No kids.
The situation has unfolded fast. Since discovery, there has been zero remorse, zero accountability, and complete emotional detachment. Instead of facing what happened, she packed up, moved out, filed for D, and has essentially alienated/cut herself off from her own family as well, all within one week.
Deep down, I want R. I took my vows seriously and would be willing to do the heavy lifting if there was a path forward.
I'm doing my best to implement the 180 and protect myself legally and emotionally, but it’s tough when you're watching the person you love burn down their own life and marriage while you still hold out hope they’ll snap out of it.
For those who’ve been here:
Has anyone had a WW who filed for D, showed zero remorse, and isolated from family ever actually "wake up" before the decree was final?
If she is dead-set on D right now, is total detachment (strict 180 / Grey Rock) my only move to preserve my own sanity—and does that ever actually break the fog, or do I just need to accept that R is dead?
0 comment posted: Thursday, October 15th, 2026
