EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 1:34 AM on Friday, August 16th, 2019
Me: WS (61)
Him: Shards (56)
D-day: June 6, 2010
Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010
NC Letter sent: 3/9/11
We’re going to make it.
EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 2:30 AM on Saturday, August 17th, 2019
Me: WS (61)
Him: Shards (56)
D-day: June 6, 2010
Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010
NC Letter sent: 3/9/11
We’re going to make it.
Ashvika ( new member #63633) posted at 1:08 PM on Sunday, August 18th, 2019
This is my first post.
I had and affair for 1 year, 8 months.
D-day was July 8. 41 days ago.
Why isnt my wife exhibiting any of these things the BS is supposed to do?
Even my counselor is puzzled.
EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 4:47 AM on Wednesday, September 18th, 2019
Bumped for ashamed7broken.
Me: WS (61)
Him: Shards (56)
D-day: June 6, 2010
Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010
NC Letter sent: 3/9/11
We’re going to make it.
NotSureAboutIt ( member #69836) posted at 8:45 PM on Thursday, September 19th, 2019
Literally 30 years since DDay. I have been reading SI daily for months. I find it very helpful. There are many triggers, but there are many things that I never dealt with. My guilt and shame are with me daily. This site is helping me come to grips with what I did - still trying to fully understand why. It did get me to regularly thank my wife for giving me a second chance. That triggered her a bit since we don’t normally talk about my A. But it has proven helpful. We are getting closer every day. R is not easy and it is not quick. It is worth it. Do you ever truly forgive yourself? I’ll let you know if it happens.
[This message edited by NotSureAboutIt at 2:46 PM, September 19th (Thursday)]
Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 1:52 PM on Wednesday, October 2nd, 2019
Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown
EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 4:56 AM on Tuesday, October 15th, 2019
Me: WS (61)
Him: Shards (56)
D-day: June 6, 2010
Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010
NC Letter sent: 3/9/11
We’re going to make it.
wantstorepair ( member #32598) posted at 6:44 PM on Sunday, October 20th, 2019
Thank you so much for reposting this. It is so important to not just read this, but to live it every day for them and their recovery...something I have not done. I am going to read this daily and listen and act. Thank you!!
EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 2:36 AM on Wednesday, October 30th, 2019
Me: WS (61)
Him: Shards (56)
D-day: June 6, 2010
Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010
NC Letter sent: 3/9/11
We’re going to make it.
EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 3:29 AM on Thursday, November 21st, 2019
Me: WS (61)
Him: Shards (56)
D-day: June 6, 2010
Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010
NC Letter sent: 3/9/11
We’re going to make it.
EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 1:23 AM on Wednesday, December 18th, 2019
Another bump. This is a thread that should never die.
Me: WS (61)
Him: Shards (56)
D-day: June 6, 2010
Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010
NC Letter sent: 3/9/11
We’re going to make it.
EvolvingSoul ( member #29972) posted at 2:20 AM on Thursday, December 19th, 2019
Holy cow I just realized this thread has at long last been pinned to the top! Thank you SI admin!
Me: WS (61)
Him: Shards (56)
D-day: June 6, 2010
Last voluntary AP contact: June 23, 2010
NC Letter sent: 3/9/11
We’re going to make it.
Triples ( member #72068) posted at 4:11 PM on Friday, December 20th, 2019
I sent to my WW. I'm not sure what I intended, but it described me so very accurately. I guess I just wanted her to read something that is so eloquently put and dead on the money!
ShatteredImage ( new member #79477) posted at 12:07 AM on Thursday, November 4th, 2021
Great post, lots to unpack and I've reread it a few times - sums up a lot of other resources. Hope I can make it to R one day.
D-Day 9/11/21 - 9/19/21WS(me 40sM)Status: IC, reading and forums
RaceTheDream ( new member #41402) posted at 6:29 PM on Friday, January 21st, 2022
This is great! Very accurate in describing what a betrayed spouse goes through… it’s made me feel really thankful about how my wayward spouse has handled things even though it’s been years.
~RaceTheDreamMe(BS). Him(WS). Together Since Jan.04, 2008 (met when we were 16)Got Engaged Aug. 13, 2012D-Day July 2013 (He confessed 3 years later)Married Jan. 04, 2014Now have 3 children (born 2015, 2017, and 2021)
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Copec ( new member #79885) posted at 5:05 PM on Tuesday, February 15th, 2022
WW and mad hatter here and I think it’s fantastic. Something I will read over and over and use your help with reconciliation. Thank you for posting this gem!
WS/mad hatter-1.5 years post DDay.
doublerainbow ( member #82239) posted at 4:53 PM on Friday, October 28th, 2022
This post made me cry. Thank you.
Me: BS (38) Him: WS (45) D-Day (Jan 2022), going through D. 1 DD age 4. Just want to know there’s light at the end of this mess.
Meridiana ( new member #82885) posted at 4:21 PM on Monday, February 20th, 2023
Hello, BS here. I have not shared my story yet, but I have found some comfort reading around the forum and this post which I have shared with my H whom is currently trying hard to mend to what he did (ONS) and feels powerless when I have my moments.
Thanks for sharing!
