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crisisrecovery (original poster member #26473) posted at 6:12 AM on Thursday, March 18th, 2010
Just posting to say how much loneliness sucks. My WH still calls me even after divorce is final. Tonight he called again and I didn't answer of course. He is lonely too I'm sure or he wouldn't be contacting me, but I am not responsible for his happiness. I am just posting here because it is so hard not to answer or return his calls. Has anyone else had so much trouble?
Every day above ground is a good day.
gma56 ( member #19595) posted at 6:22 AM on Thursday, March 18th, 2010
Yup. it can be lonely at times and it's always better to post here than contact with XS. 
I would tell you a silly St Patrick's joke but I don't have one ! 
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 12:49 PM on Thursday, March 18th, 2010
Oh, yeah, we all have to face that at some point.
The guy I am detaching from called me last night too....and I did not feel the urge to jump and see him like usual....so I guess I am doing a better job detaching, but it is still hard.
Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.
Discarded* ( new member #27598) posted at 5:48 PM on Thursday, March 18th, 2010
My WW went off with her new guy yet would contact me every now and then.....Sometimes to even complain about him! I shut that shit down pretty quick though...
Now, 10 months later they share a lovely little house only 10 minutes from me...How nice.. 
It took me 12 months to finally realize that none of her contact was about me or R at all.....
Hope is a dangerous drug*
Hugs to you too ((NaiveAgain))
Dis*
[This message edited by Discarded* at 11:50 AM, March 18th (Thursday)]
Me:BH
Her:WS
OM-Friend of 13 years AND his GF.
3 wonderful years gone
DDay - Feb 09
Lost everything.
Her in a new RS
Me in therapy and recovery...alone*
I look forward to the future coz thats where I'm going to spend the rest of my life*
brokenn ( member #4871) posted at 7:31 PM on Thursday, March 18th, 2010
Hope is a dangerous drug
That is so true! I've never herd that one.
"Hey God I know I'm just a dot in this world have you forgot about me?"
Creed
damncutekitty ( member #5929) posted at 7:42 PM on Thursday, March 18th, 2010
Good on you for posting here!
I got so lonely at times that I did answer those calls. And I always ended up in bed with him. Life a got a lot better when I went NC. (almost 3 years now!)
12/18/15 found out my now EX boyfriend was trolling CL for underage girls. From the cops. The fun never stops.
Danu ( member #16811) posted at 8:46 PM on Thursday, March 18th, 2010
t/j...
green beer is just WRONG...
end t/j
"... your soulmate is the person that pushes your buttons, pisses you off on a regular basis, and makes you face your shit" Madonna
cass ( member #24261) posted at 12:53 AM on Friday, March 19th, 2010
(((crisis)))
Many of us have been there (and still are at times). Well done you for not answering. Stay strong. It is very hard. You are not responsible for his happiness OR his unhappiness. You are only responsible for your own.
Loneliness can be an attitude. I know it's hard but remember you are still healing. It will get better. My X was still calling periodically (he's still seeing OMW after 2 years) up until February where I had had enough and blocked him totally.
Think of it like this - if you were totally healed (and you will be some day soon) and enjoying life or had met someone new (and you will) you would not be feeling like returing his calls or even wondering why he was calling. You would simply be enjoying your new life.
Hugs to you.
(hugs to NA too)
DDay - April 2008
Me - 58 and doing great, alone.
Don't put the key to your happiness in someone else's pocket!
NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 1:20 AM on Friday, March 19th, 2010
My WW went off with her new guy yet would contact me every now and then.....Sometimes to even complain about him!
Okay, that is just sick....
(Thanks for the hugs)
and you too, (((((cr)))))
Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.
crisisrecovery (original poster member #26473) posted at 2:27 AM on Friday, March 19th, 2010
Thanks all. It is nice to have a place to come where people understand.
Every day above ground is a good day.
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