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Remember the guy I was seeing who decided to try and work on his marriage back in May? well, apparently they decided to divorce, and we started talking again, went out one more time. Eventually he said he didn't want any relationship with anyone, and we remained friends, said we could still hang out sometimes.

We were just texting this morning, making plans to go hiking on Thursday, and suddenly he says he can't see me anymore, an old flame is burning a candle for him, sorry. I respond, wtf? Asked him to at least explain what's going on. His response? "Shit happens, sorry, just being honest."

I said, wow, that's all you have for me? that fuckin hurts. Then he ripped me a new one, saying he owed me nothing, i owed him nothing, we only went out 4 times, he'd seen 100's of girls more times than that, that i should be lucky that he didn't fuck me for months and then "tell ya to beat it"

that fuckin hurt...all I could say was that this anger was ugly, and i asked for him to not contact me anymore. i've already deleted him from my phone and email contact list, and unfriended him from facebook.

I felt like texting him to try using his tongue when he kissed cuz it wasn't all that, but then i'd just be mean right back, and i want to be better than that.

why would he get so mean so fast? i know i'm still new at this whole dating thing, but are they ALL going to be mean until my skin is so fucking thick that I can't let anyone in?

I don't remember hearing about the specifics of him "working on his marriage," but all I can say from reading this is there is obviously a very good reason why his wife is divorcing him. Period. You're seeing some of it.

Can you imagine being on the receiving end of this crap once he's really "comfortable" with you?

Glad you deleted him from everything. Don't look back.

Ditto Stess

Time to move on and close that door forever.

You should go out and celebrate. You dodged a bullet with this one.

What an ass!!! So sorry you had to deal with this jerk. NEXT! I agree you dodged a huge bullet.

When he tm'd about the old flame I should have responded "great, hope it works out" but I didn't, i let my emotion step in.

He said they were divorcing because she had cheated, and that he had spent too much time with friends and was trying to do better. But that's me...miss stupid fuck naive who believes everything...

i just have to be a bitch with everyone, i guess...

thanks guys for telling me i'm alright, that it was just a bullet dodged...

why would he get so mean so fast?

I don't know actually, but my guess is because he's a huge, mean asshole who wants his own way and doesn't want any guilt about it?

He sounds like a horrible person. You did the right thing by blocking him. when it doesn't work out for him, and he calls months down the road trying to "recycle" you, don't answer.

I'm sorry that happened to you. Dating can be awful, at times.

when i was crying to my FB friends, a male friend sent me a private message saying that he believed most men (not judging, just saying what he said) use anger to put it back on us; apparently my friend used to do this himself one too many times (his words).

I don't know...i cried it out, will probably do a little more when i go to bed, and then let it go.

As for him coming back to me, my ex never did that, so I don't expect anyone else to, either...it really fucks up your self-esteem

[This message edited by ohsolost at 11:19 PM, September 6th (Monday)]

(((ohsolost)))

What an idiot loser.....ditto stess....

Hey, don't beat yourself up. It was your first try. You have to use each experience to learn more about that crazy dating world. You have to learn to trust your instincts more and YOU WILL!!! HANG IN THERE!!!!!