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 SI Staff (original poster moderator #10) posted at 11:54 PM on Monday, September 6th, 2010

The staff finds it necessary to address a couple of issues that continue to come up in this forum.

First and foremost, New Beginnings is one of eleven forums here at SI. This forum is subject to the same guidelines as the rest of SI.

Posting with respect, no flaming or attacking, etc.

There has been a tendency in this forum for some time to ignore the posting with respect aspect. Often times there is a gang mentality seen in here. A group piling on certain posters that aren't a part of that group.

Another issue that we have seen is that people in this forum seem to think they can tell others how and when to post. This is a public message board. Anyone can post to a thread as long as they are posting with respect and following the SI guidelines.

A moderator is the only person that can tell you where you can and can't post.

You can continue to express your opinions but with respect.There will be no more group piling on certain posters you don't agree with.

There will be no more infighting in this forum.

For those of you that have voiced that you're 'singled out' by us mods, well, you are.

This is the only forum in the history of the site in the past 8 years that we actually had to change the entire forum and description and actually write a guidelines about smut talk and completely inappropriate behavior.

Maybe its time for you all to reflect a little on how *you* behave that forces us to babysit this forum.

Either appreciate what you have here and follow the rules of the site or find somewhere else to post.

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Jen ( member #26584) posted at 12:01 AM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010

It does get easier

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ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 12:18 AM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010

I'm not S/D, but many of my friends are. It's OK for me to post if I have something worthwhile to say, right?? If not, please accept my apologies.

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bpositive ( member #5981) posted at 12:59 AM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010

"If you're happy and you know it..."
1 in 3 US women die of heart disease. Take charge of your health and your life!

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kdny ( member #760) posted at 1:04 AM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010

It's OK for me to post if I have something worthwhile to say, right??

Anyone can post to a thread as long as they are posting with respect and following the SI guidelines.

Whether we remain ash or become phoenix is up to us.
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Sometimes the fine line between a nervous breakdown and knowing things will be okay is a pair of furry pants~unfound

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FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 2:35 AM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010

And there was peace upon NB land...

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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do-over ( member #26277) posted at 2:58 AM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010

Thank you. I will go back and review the guidelines to make sure I do not break any.

Thanks again for the reminder.

Love do

Divorced Jan 09
Longtime lurker now trying to gain and share support.
I am happy.

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willowiris ( member #5372) posted at 1:45 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010

D-day 09/2004
Filed for divorce 9/2006

We accept the love we think we deserve. "The Perks of Being a Wallflower."

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damncutekitty ( member #5929) posted at 1:53 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010

Thanks for the reminder, mods.

12/18/15 found out my now EX boyfriend was trolling CL for underage girls. From the cops. The fun never stops.

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diditagn ( member #3433) posted at 2:36 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010

Thank you

Happy people don't have the best things, they make the best with what they have.

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wonderingbull ( member #14833) posted at 5:56 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010

Thank you!

WB

The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...

James Taylor

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NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 6:45 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010

Thank you for the reminder!

Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.

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 SI Staff (original poster moderator #10) posted at 9:27 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010

Thanks to those of you who have taken the time to read and acknowledge.

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lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 10:45 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010

No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.

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brohl5 ( member #13440) posted at 11:25 PM on Tuesday, September 7th, 2010

I'm not going to let this define me anymore. He's gone and I couldn't be happier.

You couldn't have told me in July and December of 2006, but there really is a life after this mess.

Breathe, just breathe.

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Vanjo ( member #110) posted at 1:14 AM on Wednesday, September 8th, 2010

What ever happened to that hot blonde single mod who used to be here???? from Florida I seem to recall?? I do lurk on this forum this year, might even start dating and it is good to read others experience.

I suppose, since I haven't posted here, that I am not one of the troublemakers.... wow... such a nice change.... I am NOT causing trouble!

I love mods! Even have some crushes on a couple of them

..negative people beat cancer also..

SI was where I finally found people who understood.

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Why Me ( member #6195) posted at 4:47 AM on Wednesday, September 8th, 2010

What the Hell Just Happened?.....I may be a slow learner...but "I AM LEARNIN'"!..Life's a trip..."ENJOY"

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GroundZero ( member #27853) posted at 4:49 AM on Wednesday, September 8th, 2010

Out of clutter, find simplicity; out of discord, find harmony; in the middle of difficulty lies opportunity. Einstein

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TryingToBreathe ( member #14935) posted at 4:55 AM on Wednesday, September 8th, 2010

Now I'm wondering what I've missed . . .

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dreamlife ( member #8142) posted at 5:03 AM on Wednesday, September 8th, 2010

~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

"He called me a bitch.
I called him an ambulance."
Linda H.)

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