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STBX sent me a text awhile ago that said because I had been so rude lately, he would not taking our dogs when I move into my rental house.

Wow, can you say immature? I have no idea what I have done that is rude except I have gone no contact with him and have not responded to his random texts sent while he is off playing house with OW. I guess NC = rude in his book.

I think that cheating on me is far ruder than me not communicating with WH.

He probably has a different opinion.

You are doing fine. He's trying to escalate things to get a reaction. Don't bite.

BLAMESHIFTING

Threats, so they need not take any responsibility for their despicable behavior.

The hard question here is: do you trust this man, who would stoop to adultery, and threatening you with beloved pets' lives, to care for them?

IMHO, I would not. A no-kill shelter is a better option if u cannot take them or have family who can. I would if I were close.

Take care. NC.180. DIGNITY.

TJ

OMG, can I totally relate. Mine does not see anything wrong with texting me what he thinks thinks to be funny comments and expects a response back. When I do not respond a few times in a row, he gets mean and nasty.

He seriously does not get that I cannot be his friend at this time if ever. And I cannot be his text buddy, that is what he has OW for, as they text non-stop from morning til night.

Yeah, so in a nutshell in my stbxwh's case NC=Rude as well. We know of course that it is all about them!!!!

Lovemyfamily, thanks - and I will not bite this time. I know he just wants to engage me in his drama. That is why I post here.

Tammy, my landlord will let me bring my dogs and I will. Originally STBX offered to take them so I agreed. He "used" to be an extreme animal lover (thus why we ended up with 2 dogs) so I didn't think it would be a problem - not sure what happened there. Oh yeah, he is now a shell of a man and no longer the man I married.

Kookoo are we married to the same man? LOL I love how they think we can be friends with them after all they put us through.

I love how they think we can be friends with them after all they put us through.

If we are friends with them and answer their texts, laugh at their jokes they can say to themselves that what they did was not too bad. It's a self-protection mechanism. They want us to make them feel better.

Love the rude text mommy! It means that you are getting under his skin.

NC is wonderful as they don't get anything from us, either positive or negative.

It drives them mad. They want to believe they are at the centre of our universe!

I wanted things to be 'civil' around the house, we are both living here during D, because of boys. But, I refuse to sit with him at meals or go out to eat with him and boys.

He sent me a nasty email saying 'I thought you wanted to be civil. What is with the separate meal plans?' I don't know...maybe because I found out that he turned down my offer to go out to lunch one day and instead snuck off to meet with MOW. If she is the one he wants to spend time with, when she can sneak off from her BH, then so be it. How is that ME being rude or uncivil?

Isn't it funny how the stbxws almost always expects better behavior from their BS?

This also sounds as if he may be doing a little fishing to see about the status of his plan B or even plan C. Mine does this and if WW isn't getting a good feeling about where I am at because of NC (which she never does) the texts escalate and become more and more fishy, when that happens I can get all sorts of wierd texts. Ignore all of them and treat WS like you are the clerk checking them out at the grociery store. Pleasant but just business, and only about business. All others, ignore!

What is crazy is that post-DDay and for quite awhile after, I was so very rude to him. Now, I am doing absolutely nothing and he is acting like this.

I keep telling myself that it is self-loathing he is trying to project onto me. It is as if he wants me to yell at him, etc. and when I am quiet he doesn't know what to do about it.

We have an event at our child's school tomorrow so I will have to see him - I will of course be looking fab and will be just as sweet as sugar even though inside he makes me ill- that will drive him bonkers. Yea 180!