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A thank you to all for the advice! I have an atty I'm comfortable with. All in all I met with five:

The first - a woman, I felt like she was attacking me. Adultery doesn't matter - SAHM? - time to get a job! She was abrasive, felt like I was abused and betrayed all over again.

The second - a woman. Very nice, good listener - promised me everything I wanted at the consult. When I went to retain her - everything changed to "if" this and "if" that and "if we get alimony". I felt like I'd been baited and now she was switching up.

Third atty - I really liked, she listened, considered what I had to say, formed a rough game plan... Then my WH contacted her - reminding her that they had an acquaintance and that they had discussed "personal matters" she withdrew two months in - citing a conflict.

Telling me she thought I might loose confidence in her based on his statements and contacts... at least she refunded my $ in full. Truth is I did lose confidence in her when she chose to withdraw. (But who knows maybe she slept with him....)

So I went to the Bulldog, yet another woman - and she attacked me just like the first. I had the distinct impression she had no sympathy or respect for Housewives, SAHM's - I left there so defeated - court date coming up and with no lawyer. It was so over-whelming I felt as lost as DDay, well almost. I definitely felt as screwed over as Dday.

I considered going pro se. F it. I just wanted it done - but you guys said "GET A LAWYER".

I tried a guy, apprehensively (what if he cheated on his wife... what if I am surrounded in court by a boys club and get screwed over...? Gee think this experience (Infidelity) has damaged my trust some???)

Anyway- Consult went an hour and a half - he listened, questioned, put things together on his own - points I'd struggled to get the other Atty's to see. I hired him. Met with him today - He had filed several supoena's, counter-filed cruel and abusive, reworked some of my financials - all in a half hour and we were done. Court next week.

I don't know how it will turn out - in my state "equitable division" is the rule. But for the first time I feel like my atty is taking the lead and protecting my interests.

Thanks guys for being there!!

And for pushing!! I seldom post personal or emotional stuff - WH may lurk - but I just had to share this.

I'm going to have a cocktail now, chill out and watch a movie, and probably sleep better tonight than I have in a while.

Yay! Hope he comes through for you.

I ended up with someone who is a very experienced mediator after not feeling comfortable with the bulldogs I met.

I'm curious, what "types" have others retained and what's your experience been with them?

I'm curious, what "types" have others retained and what's your experience been with them?

I interviewed three attorneys. My first choice did not want to take my case. I pressed him for a recommendation. He recommended the attorney I eventually hired, who was VERY good. VERY well respected, VERY passionate in court, VERY protective of my interests.

When we were in court for our temp orders, two women asked my attorney for her card on the way out--she was that impressive as she argued my case.

Cat

I met with two attorneys, the first one refused to take my case beacuse he knows my H..he's an attorney too he is an attorney that specializes in equitable distribution and divorce

I picked the one I did because I remember my WH saying how good he was.