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 Edie (original poster member #26133) posted at 11:16 AM on Monday, January 10th, 2011

Women Who Think Too Much: How to Break Free of Overthinking and Reclaim Your

Life

by Susan Nolen-Hoeksema (Author)

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

Practically everyone agonizes over decisions or situations from time to time,

but overthinkers carry analysis and introspection to unhealthy extremes,

"getting caught in torrents of negative thoughts and emotions,"according to

this book. Even minor events can trigger a chain of second-guessing in which

negative emotions are "amplified instead of managed." Kneading damaging

thoughts like dough, overthinkers fall victim to a "yeast effect" that causes

negativity to grow and take control of their lives, distort their perspectives

and damage relationships, careers and emotional (and perhaps physical) health.

Nolen-Hoeksema, a University of Michigan psychology professor and author of

five professional books, explores why people overthink, contends and explains

why too much thinking is predominantly a woman's disease and prescribes a

three-step program to overcome overthinking. Citing many studies (including her

own) and occasionally zooming in on particular cases, she offers no-nonsense,

reasoned and easy-to-understand advice and strategies, as well as a quiz to

help readers recognize their own patterns of overthought.

Copyright 2003 Reed Business Information, Inc.

From Library Journal

Contrary to popular opinion, it's not good to spend too much time analyzing

your thoughts and feelings, claims this University of Michigan psychologist.

And women are especially guilty of this sin.

Copyright 2002 Reed Business Information, Inc.

Book Description

From one of the nation's preeminent experts on women and emotion, a

breakthrough new book about how to stop negative thinking and become more

productive It's no surprise that our fast-paced, overly self-analytical culture

is pushing many people-especially women-to spend countless hours thinking about

negative ideas, feelings, and experiences. Renowned psychologist Dr. Susan

Nolen-Hoeksema calls this overthinking, and her groundbreaking research shows

that an increasing number of women-more than half of those in her extensive

study-are doing it too much and too often, hindering their ability to lead a

satisfying life. Overthinking can be anything from fretting about the big

questions such as "What am I doing with my life?" to losing sleep over a

friend's innocent comment. It is causing many women to end up sad, anxious, or

seriously depressed, and Nolen-Hoeksema challenges the assumption-heralded by

so many pop-psychology pundits of the last several decades-that constantly

expressing and analyzing our emotions is a good thing. In Women Who Think Too

Much, Nolen-Hoeksema shows us what causes so many women to be overthinkers and

provides concrete strategies that can be used to escape these negative

thoughts, move to higher ground, and live more productively. Women Who Think

Too Much will change lives and is destined to become a self-help classic.

About the Author

Susan Nolen-Hoeksema, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at the University of

Michigan. She received her B.A. from Yale University and her Ph.D. from the

University of Pennsylvania. Her award-winning research has been funded by major

grants from the National Institute of Mental Health, the National Science

Foundation, and several private foundations. She lives in Ann Arbor, Michigan,

with her husband and son.

Excerpted from Women Who Think Too Much by Susan Nolen-Hoeksema. Copyright ©

2003. Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.

From Women Who Think Too Much: Over the last four decades, women have

experienced unprecedented growth in independence and opportunity. We are freer

to choose what kinds of relationships to have, whether and when to have

children, what careers to pursue, and what lifestyles to lead. But too often,

many of us are flooded with worries, thoughts, and emotions that swirl out of

control. We are suffering from an epidemic of overthinking-getting caught in

torrents of negative thoughts and emotions that overwhelm us and interfere with

our functioning and well-being. Our concerns are about fundamental issues: Who

am I? What am I doing with my life? Answers do not come easily to such

questions and so we search and ponder and worry even more.

Types of Overthinking:

o Rant-and-Rave This is the most familiar type of overthinking which usually

centers on some wrong we believe has been done to us. Women prone to this kind

of overthinking tend to take on an air of wounded self-righteousness and focus

on designing retribution that will severely sting our victimizers.

o Life-of-Their-Own This type of overthinking begins innocently as we notice

we're feeling upset or when we ponder a recent event. Then we begin to

entertain possible causes for our feelings about the events. Overthinking

causes us to exaggerate problems and make bad decisions.

o Chaotic This type of overthinking occurs when we don't move in a straight

line from one problem to another. Instead, it is as if all kinds of concerns,

many of them unrelated, flood our minds at the same time.

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Skye ( member #325) posted at 3:37 PM on Monday, January 10th, 2011

I definitely overthink everything. Will get this book today! Thanks.

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Mrs.Confused ( member #30485) posted at 4:20 PM on Monday, January 10th, 2011

WOW Edie ! Thanks so much for posting and getting so much info. out to us about the book.

It has been said, 'time heals all wounds.' I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone. ~ Rose Kennedy ~

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crunchypb ( member #30827) posted at 10:53 PM on Saturday, January 15th, 2011

Is this book for overall over analyzing things? I don't necessarily make everything negative, but I do have a tendency to over analyze stuff.

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girlsbird ( member #30877) posted at 10:34 PM on Tuesday, January 18th, 2011

Sounds like a book for me

D-Day 10/28/10..almost admission 7/10 Reconciled. I was the betrayed

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MissesJai ( member #24849) posted at 11:19 PM on Tuesday, January 18th, 2011

must read this!

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Happily divorcing..
My Life is Mine!!!!
#BlackLivesMatter
Don't settle for no fuck shit....

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9years ( member #21212) posted at 8:15 PM on Wednesday, January 26th, 2011

I MUST HAVE!! Oh lordy, how Many times have I been told that very thing!! Just wow!!

Just say yes to the rest

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Skye ( member #325) posted at 8:21 PM on Wednesday, January 26th, 2011

Started the book and realized I don't really overthink everything. This is a good book, though, for worriers, which is one thing I'm not!

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9years ( member #21212) posted at 7:52 AM on Saturday, February 5th, 2011

This is a good book, though, for worriers, which is one thing I'm not!

good to know, AND I have made big steps in improving on my own i guess I just needed to hear it is considered a problem..

Just say yes to the rest

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horseluvr ( member #30097) posted at 6:45 AM on Wednesday, March 16th, 2011

oh book, where have you been all of my life. This is one I need to get asap. Thank you!

BS me WS him...3 great kids
DD 10-09 OW younger but doesnt look it,face looks like a dried up cow pie..note to c**tface:sunscreen

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heart_in_a_blend ( member #24191) posted at 4:25 PM on Wednesday, March 16th, 2011

And just when I thought that I had read every self-help book up pops another one.

I'm busy over analyzing as we speak.

My husband would love for me to stop this behavior. I guess there is a flip side to every story.

Maybe there is a drug I could take instead? I think I have a "yeast infection".

As you have probably noticed I have the Rant and Rave issue.

In life, much of what one grieves one never had.

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philly172 ( member #19024) posted at 5:04 PM on Wednesday, March 16th, 2011

Just put this book on hold at my library.. Thanks Edie!

I am definitely an overthinker

"Sorry" works when a mistake is made, but not when trust is broken. So in life, make mistakes, but never break trust. Because forgiving is easy, but forgetting & trusting again is sometimes impossible

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HappilyUnMarried ( member #21299) posted at 6:55 PM on Wednesday, March 16th, 2011

That is me in a nutshell.

I'm going to order it ... although that is the type of overthinking/analyzing that I am trying to break free of

True happiness comes from within, not from someone else.  Don’t make the mistake of waiting on someone or something to come along and make you happy

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