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somanyyears (original poster member #26970) posted at 11:04 PM on Sunday, January 23rd, 2011
..well, i think with all the shit that happened lately that i hate my wife.
i don't think my marriage is going to survive this shit storm and i'm getting closer and closer to packing it in.
..sorry for the vent but i'm just so pissed off right now i can't even think straight.
smy
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
oceanwaves ( member #29297) posted at 11:11 PM on Sunday, January 23rd, 2011
“More than anything else, I believe it's our decisions, not the conditions of our lives, that determine our destiny.” -Anthony Robbins
Finesse026 ( member #25868) posted at 11:11 PM on Sunday, January 23rd, 2011
Together: 8.5 years
Married: 5 years
BW: 32
WH: 34
Angel baby: Nov. 09
OC born June '10
filed for D Oct. 15, served Dec 18
D final June 21, 2011
Remarried 2012
DDay July 29, 2020; July 31, 2020; August 5, 2020
kdny ( member #760) posted at 11:12 PM on Sunday, January 23rd, 2011
(((smy)))
vent away, its better to get it out here than IRL.
Whether we remain ash or become phoenix is up to us.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Sometimes the fine line between a nervous breakdown and knowing things will be okay is a pair of furry pants~unfound
Hope24 ( member #9344) posted at 11:19 PM on Sunday, January 23rd, 2011
(((smy)))
There are no easy answers, but for me, living in a dysfunctional marriage was far worse than divorce.
She packed up her potential and all she had learned and headed out to change a few things.
deena ( member #27275) posted at 11:26 PM on Sunday, January 23rd, 2011
(((((somanyyears))))))
the vents help...so vent away.
Sorry you are feleing this pain so much.
Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's
better to leave them broken than to hurt
yourself putting it back together.
sullymeishadomi ( member #16305) posted at 11:32 PM on Sunday, January 23rd, 2011
((smy)). I agree with everyone here: its better to vent here.
Lotsa ( member #28078) posted at 12:13 AM on Monday, January 24th, 2011
So sorry you're doing it tough at the moment smy...
Brotherly hugs coming your way.
somanyyears (original poster member #26970) posted at 12:14 AM on Monday, January 24th, 2011
((((SI FOLKS)))))
..you all are the best..
..I really appreciate the support..my mind is pretty muddled with doubt at the moment..
..i am generally pretty positive about my determination to work through all this crazy shit surrounding her A..
..but this fucking rollercoaster dun drove right off the fucking tracks lately and i'm pretty discouraged that i'm just pissin into the wind..
..i'm not a drinking man, a single beer or glass of wine is about the full extent of it but i really think i should just get trashed tonight and cry in my own fucking beer..
..i know that won't make anything go away or change but it will alter my mood and make me silly and stupid for a few hours..
..luckily, i know i'm not a mean or nasty drunk and i also know i won't go anywhere in my car.. maybe just go outside and pass out in a big fucking snow drift..
.. and she can find me frozen stiff in the morning!!
..fuck..this is harder than i ever thought possible.. and i don't have all the answers figured out yet..will i ever???
..time to go uncork a bottle of the good stuff..and we'll see if that helps a bit..
Thanks again for all the hugs and words of wisdom..
..i know i couldn't have come this far without SI and all of you to help..
XOXOXOXOXO to the wimmenz and ((((man hugs))))) to the guys
smy
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
webmistress ( member #29816) posted at 12:14 AM on Monday, January 24th, 2011
We all have those moments, so vent away!
Me: BW-43
Ex-WH: 36
Married: 6 years
DDay #1: 10/5/10, one week before our
daughters 4th birthday
DDay#2: 5/21/15
D official 2/23/11
Not sure where to go from here
OW 1&2:Delusional, stupid whores
trying2deal ( member #2597) posted at 12:27 AM on Monday, January 24th, 2011
(((smy))) I'm sorry you're hurting. I hope things are brighter in the morning.
All truth, in the long run, is only common sense clarified. Thomas Huxley
brokenpromise ( member #28859) posted at 1:24 AM on Monday, January 24th, 2011
((( smy )))
So very sorry you are dealing with this sh*t tonite.
You always give kind and caring advice in your posts. I wish I could say something that would make you feel better but I really don't have anything other than to say that what you post DOES matter to a lot of us here on SI
Keep on keeping on
BW- Me 62 FWS - 68
M 45 years
DD June 9, 2010
On and off LTA with dept secretary
But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal Matt 6:20
devastatedstill ( member #14232) posted at 1:34 AM on Monday, January 24th, 2011
Best of luck to you, smy.
ds
me: BS, 51
her: WW 41
M: 14 yrs, together 16, 3 kids
Separated
WW wants D
dday: 4/7/2006
You've got a lot of nerve to say you are my friend. -Bob Dylan
somanyyears (original poster member #26970) posted at 1:57 AM on Monday, January 24th, 2011
..thanks again everbody for your kind words..they realy help..
..i'm on my third glass of wine and feelin pretty good..maybe i should treat myself more often..
..@ brokenpromise..those were nice words to read and i thank you..
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
somanyyears (original poster member #26970) posted at 1:57 AM on Monday, January 24th, 2011
..thanks again everbody for your kind words..they realy help..
..i'm on my third glass of wine and feelin pretty good..maybe i should treat myself more often..
..@ brokenpromise..those were nice words to read and i thank you..
Whoops..double post..just might be the wine's fault but that would be blameshifting..right??
[This message edited by somanyyears at 8:00 PM, January 23rd (Sunday)]
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
Jen ( member #26584) posted at 2:11 AM on Monday, January 24th, 2011
(((smy)))
wishing you clarity and peace ...
Me former Booger Bear ...
https://youtu.be/1TcLw3TOIN8
Hand Me Down MatchBox 20
https://youtu.be/iFdOAyyn76M
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HippyQueen ( member #29055) posted at 2:22 AM on Monday, January 24th, 2011
I so get where you are right now. Lots of ((((Hugs))))
Update: My husband passed away on 9/21/12. I've been on an emotional roller coaster since.
BS45 (Me)
STBXWH49
M- 2/14/87
2 sons, 19 & 23 YO
3/1/11 - heading for D.
6/4/11 R- Turned out to be false.
7/29/11 another D-day and decision
deena ( member #27275) posted at 3:42 AM on Monday, January 24th, 2011
Whoops..double post..just might be the wine's fault but that would be blameshifting..right??
Even in your down moments you provided me with a smile. Blaimshifting has taken on a whole new meaning since D-day.
Enjoy your wine but please do not go keep some snowdrift company tonight.
We need your smiley moments.
Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's
better to leave them broken than to hurt
yourself putting it back together.
IMARRIEDAJACKYL ( member #30413) posted at 3:42 AM on Monday, January 24th, 2011
Bro,
I'm sorry. It sucks.
I have been through hell and I am on my way to a new life.
For me it is the best thing. I need to carry on my life without the toxicity.... without the lies.....
You will go through all the stages... I am still in one of them... not sure which one... but I think I am getting close to accepting the fact that I married a complete fucking whore.
I hate my wife, too. So, you are not alone in that.
It is normal. I think I will always feel this kind of hatred... She has had no remorse...
Others say it will become indifference... I hope for it.
You need to do what YOU want to do now.
Be selfish. It helps.
Good luck, brother and no matter what... work at it. Try the 180... it will help you.
T
BS (Me) 40
The Jackyl (Her) 43
Married 12 years
Divorced - March 22, 2011
Son (11)
Daughter (9)
"I still miss her... I guess I just have to improve my aim!"
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 5:02 AM on Monday, January 24th, 2011
I'm sorry that you're hurting smy; you've been the voice of reason so many times for others--why not take your own advice? If it is not working, you can't force it to work. You don't have to decide right now, but don't torture yourself.
I hope you don't have too much of a headache tomorrow.
(((((smy)))))
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
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