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Mr. Kite (original poster member #28840) posted at 2:44 PM on Wednesday, March 16th, 2011
Alienation of affection suits are extremely difficult to win. This case will set a legal precedent for judges in America in terms of awarding damages to a plaintiff.
It sends a warning to those who selfishly destroy marriages and think there's no cost to them.
Btw the comments after the article indicate how ignorant much of the public is about infidelity.
Wake judge awards $30 million in alienation of affection suit
Raleigh, N.C. — A Wake County judge awarded the ex-wife of a local business owner $30 million Monday in an alienation of affection lawsuit against his current wife.
Superior Court Judge Carl Fox handed down a judgment against Betty Devin requiring her to pay over $10 million in compensatory damages and $20 million in punitive damages to Carol Puryear, the former wife of Donald Puryear, who owns a trucking company in Raleigh.
The settlement is the largest of its kind in North Carolina history, according to court records.
To win an alienation of affection suit, one party must prove that a third party acted maliciously to contribute to or cause the loss of affection in a marriage.
http://www.wral.com/news/local/story/9270098/
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wonderingbull ( member #14833) posted at 3:47 PM on Wednesday, March 16th, 2011
That was one expensive piece of ass....
WB
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circe ( member #6687) posted at 3:59 PM on Wednesday, March 16th, 2011
I have mixed feelings about A of A. On the one hand I feel like: yeah! And on the other hand I kind of feel insulted as a married woman at the implication that someone outside my marriage could ever be "powerful" enough to enter into my marriage and alienate my husband, when in fact his choice (and my choice of course) is the only thing IMO that has the power to do that.
Don't get me wrong, if my H had left me for OW I would want her and my WH to feel the pain and somehow be "paid back" for what they did, but I still hate the legal assumption that some other woman could be magical enough to force my husband out of our union. Rubs me the wrong way.
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arctic ( member #27617) posted at 4:16 PM on Wednesday, March 16th, 2011
Yay!
Thanks for posting this. Put me in the 'no mixed feelings' category.
13yrsGone ( member #31351) posted at 4:54 PM on Wednesday, March 16th, 2011
i live in NC i though about going after the OM for alienation of affection ... i decided to be the bigger man about everything ... besides it's hard to prove
Live for the future I know its your prerogative but when you just live for the past you become a part of it.
itainteasy ( member #31094) posted at 5:01 PM on Wednesday, March 16th, 2011
The former wife of Fantasia Barrino's current boyfriend, sued her for A of A.
She lost. I found that to be bullshit. Fantasia knew the man was married, with a family, and pursued anyway. Maybe he fell under the "spell" of of her money and fame, who knows... But his wife thought they were still very much in their marriage.
Fantasia even admitted to having an abortion before her attempted suicide.
I don't know how the BS in that case lost.
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hopingforhappy ( member #29288) posted at 9:42 PM on Wednesday, March 16th, 2011
I wouldn't get too excited about this particular case. One of the reasons the XW won was because the new wife didn't even show up to defend the case. You can assume, therefore, the the new wife has arranged her affairs to be judgement proof. So, all the XW got was a piece of paper and she lost three years (at least) of her life chasing after it. She would have been better served to move on and make a better life for herself than her cheating husband gave her.
Me--BW (57)
Him--FWH (54)--5yr. LTA--OW probably BPD
Married 21 years
DS-19, DD-16
Reconciling--but boy is it hard!
trumanshow ( member #25624) posted at 9:44 PM on Wednesday, March 16th, 2011
you don't have to prove sex-if you you do it's Criminal conversation
I heard of one where the BS collected later on-from the OW's retirement
remarried 11-15-15
Her prize is a man who ran out on his wife and children. His is a woman who is too stupid to understand that she is not special, she is simply there.
shyguy ( member #18281) posted at 11:01 PM on Wednesday, March 16th, 2011
Will this discourage people from cheating? I doubt it. It is fun to fantasize about being the winner of this type of lawsuit!
Love stinks yeah yeah(J. Geils)
dreamerinnc ( member #21670) posted at 12:46 AM on Friday, March 18th, 2011
Three years to fight and win this suit and now really be able to get on with her life beats three years of false R's that alot of us have been in.
Married 30 years
Me-BS-53
STBXH-57
1 OW that I know about
2 Boys 24 & 26
D-Day 9/13/08 to many to mention since then-I enabled
11/3/10-Finally got the paperwork going to move on with my life!
2011-R ????
2015-WTF!!!
itainteasy ( member #31094) posted at 2:03 AM on Friday, March 18th, 2011
I think there is a very real feeling of satisfaction in legally being able to go after one of the people who contributed to the destruction of your marriage.
It doesn't bring your previous life back, but it DOES put it out there to everyone that this other person isn't the sweet, kind, generous fountain of morality they present themselves to be.
I'm glad that some states offer this legal option to the innocent, collateral damage of affairs.
TXMommy ( member #28857) posted at 2:11 AM on Friday, March 18th, 2011
How do we know she isn't moving on, but at the same time, teaching the whore OW a lesson? This could be PART of her moving on... it definitely would be for me!
ME - BS - 38
WH - 34
15 years...
2 kids: D13, S7
D-Day: June 10th, 2010
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 2:13 AM on Friday, March 18th, 2011
I was a little shocked when I found out that infidelity is of little consequence in a divorce - I get at extra 5-10% of the estate, because of the "circumstances" but we still file as no fault, because I live in a no fault state.
I believe we all have a responsibility to consider factors besides attraction and our libido when we take an interest in another person. I can see that the maliciousness would be hard to prove, but if you can prove it, and it's important to you, then they deserve whatever they get.
[This message edited by persevere at 8:14 PM, March 17th (Thursday)]
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
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