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doctor49 ( member #15847) posted at 10:40 PM on Thursday, July 14th, 2011
she is making me out to be the bad guy to justify her being in contact with om.
Slight diversion but if things are so dire, why is she staying?
A version of F2S's comment elsewhere is not inappropriate
Whenever you are ready to be honest with yourself and me, we can continue this conversation.
LadyBlackbird ( new member #32607) posted at 5:14 AM on Saturday, July 16th, 2011
Collecting evidence makes it so that you don't feel crazy if they try to gaslight you. It gives you information to look at when you are questioning yourself.
So very, very true. Cheaters are manipulators, and they're very good at being convincing. Deciding to end my relationship was the hardest decision I've ever made. I wanted so desperately to believe the lies he told me, but thanks to evidence gathering, I knew they were lies. Now I'm right in the middle of separating, and having hard proof is the only thing keeping me moving forward. But that's just me - that's what I needed.
It really is about the evidence YOU need to feel secure in your decisions. And when you feel secure, you'll be better equipped to deal calmly with the situation.
Together 5 years, not married. one child (3)
D-day: 6-8-11
Status, unsure
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