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The FXWW still has a few things to pick up from the house and one of the things I was wondering from everyone is what did you do with your wedding pics after the S or D? I was thinking about putting them in with her things or burning them this winter for some closure. Crazy I know but I can't even look at them without crying. I don't think it would even phase her as she did not take her wedding dress when she moved in with her new soulmate after "Better Dealing" me. So what should I do witn these painful reminders?

If she dont take them. A nice fire on a cool autum night seems appropriate. Sounds very cleansing too.

I have been wondering what to do with mine. I dont know if I want to save them and the albums, there were so many good memories that day. And I dont know, will I want them one day? I don't know why I would.

I'm definitely not hanging them up in the house, but for now they are in a box full of other relationship related things that I'm not sure what to do with. Hmm.

I am struggling too... we just moved and I kept my dress... my girls wanted me to and then their father's infidelity was discovered. I don't know what to do either.

I packed mine away in a box that's stored downstairs, with the intention of giving them to my boys someday (well, if they want them). I kept them because I wanted our sons to see that their mom and dad were very much in love at one time. Maybe it's stupid, but it was really important to me for them to see that.

If you have children, I would box them for your children to have someday. Even after the D, those pictures are still a significant milestone in your kids' FOO.

I don't have kids, and don't really know what to do with mine either. When XH moved out, I took our albums, the CDs of all the prints, the copies of speeches and vows and the sermon from our wedding, some gifts that we got that are engraved with names and date, and a few other things and boxed them all up together. They're in my back storage room. I've looked through the albums once since then, and it was surreal. Left me feeling numb, like it wasn't real. It felt like looking at pictures of someone else, from another life.

Put that stuff away for a few year's cooling off time.

I sent my $3500 silk Dior wedding gown to Goodwill stuffed in a hefty bag. DD12 is already larger than me so she never could have worn it. I don't want it.

But somehow I regret how it left the house. It was special to me for so many years, and that's how it ended.

The pictures are up in the closet on the top shelf. The special album full of love notes went in XWH's box. I look forward to the day OW goes through it and realizes that all the crap he writes to her ("love you forever!!!" smiley face smiley face) is recycled from shit he wrote me.

I agree with Marzi- put them away for a few years and then decide.

When my parents divorced, I found my parents wedding album in the garbage cans. I dug it out and saved it and I am glad I did. For me the photos are a reminder of the family I did have one time. Not just my parents are in those photos but aunts, cousins, grandparents. Those are photos of people I love and care about. I made copies of that album for my siblings and we treasure those photos.

My wedding album is in a box, stored on a shelf in my closet. I don't know if my boys will ever want the photos, but I won't ever get rid of them. I will let them decide what they want to do with them.

I burned mine. It felt good, GREAT actually! No regrets whatsoever.

But first I did keep a few that didn't have XH in them, like a picture with me and my godmother, who passed away, but that is it. I can't imagine my kids wanting the pictures and I sure as hell don't.

[This message edited by A New Day at 11:32 AM, November 9th (Wednesday)]

I want to keep our wedding album for our son, like the previous poster, I want him to see that we were in love at one point.

As for my wedding dress, that is going on ebay, craigslist or I'm donating it somewhere.

I had to stop myself from shredding the album. I packed it with ex's stuff when he moved out.

I have a single portrait of us; my father gave it to me when me moved to assisted living. I guess I'll hang on to it.

I may one day ask for the album back, and deconstruct it; it contains good pictures of my extended family and my mother and brother, both of whom are deceased. And there's a darling picture of my now-adult niece, as a toddler, wandering among the tulips in the hotel's garden.

But really, since ex took OW to the hotel where we were married to consummate their "love," I can't quite look at any of the pictures without seeing her there....so I'm not sure.

I donated my wedding dress to charity.

My wedding album is in a storage box stored away for a long time with the intent to allow my kids to keep what they want. Currently, they are not interested

My pictures currently live under my bed. When I moved into this house, I had a breakdown when my friend found the pictures. Full on sobbing, snot dripping down my face cry fest. She handled the actual moving of the pictures and they reside under my bed. Eventually they'll go into storage. I don't have any of them up though. We were happy that day. Supposedly that was the last happy day he had with me (bullshit, but anyway I digress). Maybe some day our son will want them. Who knows.

I've kept the few pics from our sad wedding!lOl

Now as for my dress I threw it away in the dumpster! I wouldn't want anyone else to wear it and be cursed for life!

I took every framed pic that had my xh in it off the walls with the intention of ripping them to shreds or boxing them up and mailing them to him. But instead, my bff at the time took them to her house to store them for me so i didnt have to look at them anymore. She also took my wedding album and wedding video. A few months later, she and i had a falling out and i was afraid i would never get them back. I wanted my boys to have them if they ever wanted them. A few months after that, we called a truce and she gave them back to me. They are now in my parents attic.

I don't know where mine are...I left them at the house with WS. If he wanted to keep them, totally up to him. My entire marriage was a sham, so what's the point? My dd's baptism dress was created from my wedding dress! I have that still, buried in a box somewhere.

I wore my mother's wedding dress. My folks celebrated their 54th anniversary this year, and I'm still torn to pieces at the idea that JAMF's actions tarnished the dress.

The dress, wedding album, and various other marriage things are boxed and in the storage room. Some day the kids can decide what to do with it all.

We did sell the rings, however. With gold so high, it seemed like a no-brainer.

I left mine behind. Highly doubt she took them. I know she took her dress, but probably sold it for drug money. I also emptied out my lockbox of momentos. That was kind of hard at the time, but I have NO regrets. The only pictures of her that I have are with the kids, and they keep them in their room. Those photos are not to be displayed, but thought it was only right for the kids to have them if they wanted.

Thought someone would mention this. There's a book out from a guy whose wife left her wedding dress behind. He came up with a bunch of ways to use it.

http://www.myexwifesweddingdress.com/

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Wh and I are stuck in the same house due to finances and it is driving me nuts... I am sleeping cramped up on the couch while he enjoys our queen size bed.

Last night I ripped all the wedding pictures in half and left the half with him in them sprinkled all over his bed. I hadnt been able to sleep... I slept soundly after I did that though