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Frogger ( member #15442) posted at 2:55 PM on Sunday, February 5th, 2012
Love isn't enough, you need respect and trust. -Jimi40
bestrongforyou ( member #25818) posted at 12:24 AM on Monday, February 6th, 2012
thank you for posting this - we are separated almost 3 years - and I still miss him sometimes - do I hate him, no. do i want to get divorced, no but do i think i could ever live with him again or trust him again, NO I don't even know him anymore, he is a stranger. So why do i still miss him - I am missing the idea of him, of who I thought he was and that hurts sometimes.
People ask me if I still love him and I always say no but my heart doesn't 100% believe it yet... hang in there...
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Jen (original poster member #26584) posted at 12:45 AM on Monday, February 6th, 2012
People ask me if I still love him and I always say no but my heart doesn't 100% believe it yet... hang in there...
this ...
today has been another weird day ... I dreamt about him all night have not done that in awhile ... 
bastards ...
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 2:31 AM on Monday, February 6th, 2012
Sending major hugs. I'm sorry you dreamt about him. Do you want to talk about it?
I think it's difficult to stop loving someone 100%. The good times and the wonderful aspects of that person make it hard (even though they do a damn good job hurting us). I can hate and love my x at the sametime.
Like loving them through rose colored glasses. We know the bad is there, but miss the good.
Sorry for the ramble.
hexed ( member #19258) posted at 3:22 PM on Monday, February 6th, 2012
((BB))
i think you're totally normal. at 2.5 years I still missed my X fairly often. not everyday and it didn't reduce me to a non-functioning mess but it still hurt.
Now at 4 years out, on random occasions I miss him. There is no reason for it. Its random. Sometimes there will be things about him that I miss. Things that aren't part of who TG is. I don't want him back but I miss a few of those things. It triggers those good memories and makes me a little sad from time to time.
Let it wash over you. Feel it until you're done with it, learn from it and move on.
But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned
“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler
rcantbleveit ( member #30476) posted at 1:53 AM on Thursday, February 16th, 2012
I saw my X last week. We went to have coffee before he had to get back on the road to OW.
He said he couldn't talk long because he had promised her he would be on the road by 930 and he was already running late.
I asked how many times he had made the same promises to me and was late getting started? He sat down &asked why I wanted to talk to him. He just can't understand why I would have anything to do with him.
He said he still loved me and he checks on me all the time. I'm not sure how he does that. Then he said he wouldn't ever do anything to hurt me and I said it's a little late to make that statement.
So anyway, it was just so good to see and touch him. Yes we hugged and yes he kissed me goodbye and yes I know it's crazy that he still matters to me.
Then a few days later, my S tells me that X & OW invited them to go skiing with them on spring break. As we were talking about that, my GS said she sounds country. We asked how he would know what she sounds like and he said that she called when he was with Pop and told him that wants to meet him and she hopes he's having fun with Pop.
I got so angry. She has no business talking to my GS or inviting my kids on an all expense trip with them.
She already bought my stepsons, my husband and some of our friends. She just needs to keep her ass in AL.
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