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Crescita ( member #32616) posted at 10:03 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2013
The more I read up on boundaries within relationships, the more that I think *most people* have unhealthy relationships...because what most of us in the Infidelity-forum would call "healthy boundaries", an awful lot of the outside worlds call "controlling" or "trying to control". Just a thought.
Part of the problem is people aren't taught healthy ways to communicate and exercise their boundaries. No one can fault you for walking away from a relationship that violates your boundaries, but staying in a relationship that doesn't respect them and insisting the other person change is going to be viewed as controlling, because, well, it is.
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foundoutlater ( member #32900) posted at 10:39 PM on Friday, October 4th, 2013
Part of the problem is people aren't taught healthy ways to communicate and exercise their boundaries. No one can fault you for walking away from a relationship that violates your boundaries, but staying in a relationship that doesn't respect them and insisting the other person change is going to be viewed as controlling, because, well, it is.
An even bigger problem I think is one person not feeling confident in their boundries, trying to mirror their significant others boundries and failing in that endeavor. Yeah I think the “controlling” the outside world sees in a relationship can have some of its roots in this.
And yeah there are plenty of people who would "fault you" for walking away.
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bunni972 ( member #33690) posted at 3:11 PM on Saturday, October 5th, 2013
Saw this post and thought I would ask everyone's opinion on the casting for the movie. what are your thoughts on Charlie being cast as Christian?
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Crescita ( member #32616) posted at 3:33 AM on Wednesday, October 16th, 2013
Just saw they are recasting Christian. Jamie Dornan is the new front runner, love it!
“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
heforgot ( member #40850) posted at 2:08 PM on Wednesday, October 16th, 2013
Ooooh! I love Jamie Dornan. I never thought of him as Christian, but not a bad choice. 
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Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 8:16 PM on Wednesday, October 16th, 2013
Thank GOODNESS. I was not seeing Charlie H at ALL. 
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InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 11:56 PM on Saturday, October 19th, 2013
I so detested this crap book and I can't believe that this thread has not died yet. Will it ever end???? 
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Ascendant ( member #38303) posted at 5:32 PM on Sunday, October 20th, 2013
Lol. Troll much? You selected a thread (clearly, a popular one, considering the amount of pages) about a popular book in order to ask why the thread hasn't ended yet...?
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