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After reading on here about one lady who crushed her wedding ring with a pair of pliers I was wondering what, if anything have you detroyed in anger after finding out about the A?

For me, I took our wedding scrapbook his sister made for us as a wedding gift and I ripped all the pages out and threw it out the front door ( in the rain no less) knowing it would be the first thing he would see when he came home

I also smashed our hand made clay-people cake topper from our wedding, and have plans to have a bonfire to burn al our wedding cards etc I had saved. The dress may just get burned too.

So, I need a laugh - what kind of stuff did you destroy in anger?

The only thing I destroyed was the glass dildo I bought her that she used during phone sex

The day after the night i found out, i sold my rings to the "we buy old gold" guy and used the money to file the divorce petition. My dress and the antique cake topper went to Goodwill later that day. I was going to toss out a shoebox full of photos of us, but left them for him to maybe one day come across. I still have our wedding album and a big envelope of his old love letters to me. I'll probably just recycle them w/o ceremony.

Haha awesome! I am debating selling the rings. I may just take them to a goldsmith and get them melted and made into an awesome dinner ring.

I bought him a nice shirt, I stabbed it with sissors and ripped it all up. (no he wasn't wearing it at the time lol)

Also he had been in the habit of buying me clothes that he KNEW I wouldn't wear. That I didn't feel comfortable in. SLUT clothes. I stabbed them as well. Put all the stuff in a bag and gave it to him.

I'm not proud of my destructive behavior. I was out of control. I destroyed a muffin tin while making dinner in a rage by throwing it repeatedly around the house. I threw a cup and broke it. I broke down our bathroom door (during the A he locked himself in there and texted the AP and I thought at the time he had health problems) and splintered the door frame. I threw a telephone at the same bathroom door and chipped the paint on Dday. I have thrown and given items away that I wore or purchased during the A period.

I'm out of that phase but right now I'm working on my potty mouth. It's tough.

Not proud to admit this but I'm in good company. I broke the bedroom door down - twice. The first time with a chair. Got a new door and a carpenter to replace it.The next time with an AX!! Shit, he shouldn't have locked himself in there to avoid talking to me about all of this crap!

P. S. We still have not replaced the door. Waiting on that a little bit...

I burnt the "Williesdad Memorial Library", which was a stack of porn about 5 feet high.

I drug this huge picnic table off the porch, and threw it on the fire in a fit of rage.

We had employees at the time. The next day, all of the employees walked right past that smoldering pile of porn and said not one word.

I ripped up all the birthday cards, anniv cards ect that he kept. Wish I had gone further!!!

I'm the person that carries spiders outside. I have never been one to be physically violent in any way. However, this broke me. I took a beautiful box I had kept photos & mementos in for the entire 2.5 years & threw in the fire pit along with his clothes, gifts from him, his toiletries from the bathroom & anything that belonged to him included something brand new he hadn't even used that cost $250. Soaked it in lighter fluid & set that bitch on fire. If the flames went down at all I poured on more fluid. When he asked why I burned so many memories my response was "Things don't mean anything when you realize you are so easily deceived by the person you loved the most & thought you could trust." His reply, "I don't have anything to say.I'm sorry."

Here is my list. These are all from broken NC day.

1. Honeymoon Scrapbook - tore it to peices. I had come across it that day and couldn't wait for him to get home so we could look at it together.

2. Wedding dress - trash

3. Caricature (sp?) we had done on our honeymoon - shredded

4. 2 super hero statues of his-took them to the basement and smashed them with a huge pipe wrench. (I'm still finding little shards)

5. Ugly KISS plastic figures his mom bought him - trash

6. 2 framed wedding pictures - smashed and in the trash.

7. We had an engagement picture that was a canvas print. I couldn't get it to tear. Took a knife to it.

8. All wedding stuff - trashed (guest book, glasses, bouquet...)

I can't think of anything else right now.

Before I walked out the door I wrote a note telling him to go f*** himself and while he was at it, f*** his whore too.

P.S. Even though we are in R, I don't regret any of it. I think I still have our wedding album. My mom convinced me the kids might want to see it someday. Not real sure where it is at the moment.

OMG!!! I didn't actually destroy anything though I wanted too..............

You all have balls

I love it!!!

Beginning to wish I'd had that instant anger rather than just shock...........

I love this thread. The only thing I broke was his cell phone. I got a hold of it on dday and found his fake facebook and got to read his messages, he came after me to grab it and I whipped it into the wall, barely missing his face.

Soaked it in lighter fluid & set that bitch on fire

This cracked me up!!!

shredded all the wedding photos and bridal portrait

i made him throw my beautiful silk wedding dress and flower thing for my hair in the trash

threw away his underware because i just could not touch something she had

i threw huge rocks (ok-35-40 pounders) at our rock wall/driveway/sidewalk- there are some chunks missing/dinged up there....

this stage is over for me too- i have also mastered the potty mouth phase Struggling16!

Since he was an avid golfer, and was in the midst of collecting a golf ball from every golf course he ever played...

I decided to take up golfing the next morning. I hit every last one of those precious golf balls into the pond on the property.

He came home, saw what I was doing...and knew enough to keep his mouth shut...

[This message edited by Cookie7088 at 2:06 PM, June 29th (Friday)]

smashed the framed wedding photo over the bed. He had to clean it up.

For that last 4 weeks I have had massive self control, there are so many things precious to him in our house I could easily destroy. I can feel my heart start to race at the thought of a bonfire!

Instead of being destructive I've been doing about 40 push ups a day, because I want to break his nose. I'm waiting until the papers are signed

I burnt the "Williesdad Memorial Library", which was a stack of porn about 5 feet high.

@ the "Williesdad Memorial Library"

I had a moment of self-loathing when I came out of the BS fog and beat the hell out of the bathroom medicine cabinet mirror with the blow dryer. It was on at the time and it caught on fire. Bonus, I now have a new (and improved) cabinet and blow-dryer.

I got rid of my wedding dress and a lot of our "momentos" from our wedding. Those things just don't mean anything to me anymore.

If we ever get to R, I am going to set our rings aside and get a cheap stainless steel set until we feel "R-ed". We'll get a new set then.

[This message edited by Sharpie4 at 5:00 PM, June 29th (Friday)]

I had a melt down one night and took a scissors to the white lingire nightgown I wore on our wedding night. I shredded it pretty good! I was going for the dress but fWH huband stopped me and hid the wedding album too.

Now it doesn't matter one way or the other...I think the kids would have been sad if they didn't have the pictures. Someone on SI told me not to burn it.