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Hi!

I am TMB2011.

I'm an art director - being smart, empathetic and sometimes dramatic makes me a really good one I think.

I like to sing, play guitar, and piano.

I changed the spelling of my name when I was 4 - from an i to a y.

I can make "bird lips" which are kind of funny - don't ask me how I do it. My father can never stay mad at me if I unleash those, even at 35!

I laugh loud and often - as young girl I used to cover my mouth and laugh shyly, so this is an improvement.

I love this thread!

Hi I am fleury (not be confused with McFlurry, I love those!)

I have two wonderful kids and two great dogs that keep me very busy.

I am in IT and recently was downsized, so I am looking for work.

I still say that I am a BS because my WS decided to add alcholism to the mix so recovery has been slow to non-existant.

I love to read and swear the Kindle was invented just for me! I also live for college sports and hockey!!

I have very supportive friends IRL, but you all are the only ones that really know what is going on in my life.

SI, and the wonderful people here have been my lifeline.

fleury.

Hi! I'm ImNellNow, but you can call me Nell. In here, I'm an XBS and creative cusser.

In real life, I'm a professional writer and schmoozer. I'm dedicated, loyal and quite good at what I'm paid to do.

I am a green belt in mixed martial arts. I hiked 13 1/2 miles (with an elevation gain of more than 2,000 feet) two weekends ago. I have a talent for watercolor and needlework. I love to sing. I'm funny and silly. I'm traveling to Nicaragua next month. I have a whole lot of sparkly shoes. I'm not afraid to speak in front of groups.

I am a good mom to two amazing boys, Boyo1 (age 9) and Boyo2 (age 7). I'm a good human to one wackjob mutt. I'm a good ex-wife to XWH (aka Daffy). I'm an amazing friend. I'm a wonderful daughter and fantastic sister and world-class aunt. I'm a homeowner, a taxpayer, a billpayer.

I'm afraid of bees and I hide my Dove dark chocolates so I don't have to share them.

Hello,

I'm StillWhy, the first guy to post on this thread.

I am currently in the USAF and am a BS.

I have two kiddos, an 11 yo DD and a 7 yo DS. My DS has autism, so it can be a handful raising him some days.

Although I don't work with computer or electronics professionally, I consider both subjects to be what I enjoy doing in my free time.

That's all I can think of to say right now.

Hello,I'm ChloeCat1, named after the little critter that has somedays been the only thing that made me laugh. She's a solid white cat that is now my only "baby" at home.

I am the proud mom of two totally awesome young adults

DD21 is an LPN returning to school to earn her RN. DS18 is a college freshman. They both have been what's kept me going this past year.

I work in the local ER and LOVE my job. My second job is trying to build my own photography business.

I enjoy reading, gardening and decorating my own home.

I'm in the midst of divorce so I'm also currently trying to completely rid my life of WH's complications. Everyday I'm realizing more and more that I can do this. I feel myself growing stronger and more independent. I'm gradually beginning to like the changes in my life.

Thanks you to SI-ers. You have also helped me see that WH's A doesn't have to mean that my life is over.It's just beginning again.

Great thread, NEH!!

I'm Philly172 known as Philly here.. I am not from Philadelphia .. it was just a name that stuck in my head while registering..

I have been married to WH for 20 years & we are the parents of 3 awesome kids.. our surprise (BIG , I was still legally married to , but separarated from my EXH when I found out I was pregnant- after suffering over 9 years of infertility with exH) DS1 who will be 20 next month.. he is a sophomore in college studying music composition & business. I absolutely hate that he goes to school 70 miles away DS2 will be 18 in 2 weeks & starting Monday he too will be a college student.. fortunately for me, he is going to college in (literally) my backyard.. my property line runs directly into the college property line .. I can look out my office windows & see the college in the winter. DS2 is studying theatre tech.. & last but definitely not least is our Princess DD is 14 YO ( 15 in November) going on 30.. she will be a freshman in high school this year

where did my babies go

I am also "Mom" to a 2YO Shorgie ( fancy name for Mutt- shih tzu-corgi) named Leia.. she is the BEST dog I have ever had (& I've had lots) She is my constant companion.. she was a birthday gift for DD from her best friend but Leia is all mine.. she is such a comfort to me.

I am a licensed Cosmetologist & have'nt practiced in a salon for 20 years..

I also have an Ebay business where I sell just about everything.

I am also a travel agent & I'm a graduate of the college of Disney knowledge

Speaking of Disney... that is one of my passions.. I adore Disney.. especially Disney World & when the kids were little we used to go 4-5 times a year.. I am a moderator for a Disney message board & I love it!

I love to read, I read just about everything but mysteries. I am also passionate about cooking.. I love to try & invent new recipes..

Well, this is fun!

I'm RS2731, or just RS. I've lived in CT my entire life and have no desire to leave (much to WH's chagrin.)

I have the most precious, impossible 4 year old son who drives me crazy and makes me laugh more than anything else.

I love animals and have 2 dogs (Australian Shepherd and Black Lab mixed breed) and 2 domestic shorthair kitties.

I'm a lawyer and my job is pretty boring but one day, when the student loans are paid off, I'm going to open my own bakery. For now I just bake for friends and family.

I just started knitting and even though I'm not really crafty, I really like it and I'm not bad at it!

I was crushed38 when I signed up - now I'm 40. Yuck. I'm the mom of one amazing, smart, beautiful (we all think our kids are cute), almost 16 year old daughter. She's getting a car for her birthday (complete surprise) so I'll be mom of the year for at least a few days. :)

I'm a surgical nurse but haven't worked in that fileld in many years. I was a SAHM for 12 years.

We have a cattle ranch. If anyone is a vegetarian, I apologize in advance. We raise beef cattle. I really love the cows. We have about 100 moms - most have names.

I love to garden. I grow a crazy veggie garden. I freeze, can, and give away tons of veggies. I'm not Martha Stewart but i'm trying. If you have any good canning recipes, please send them on!

I forgot to tell you, I'm actually from a big city, lived there my whole life until I met this cowboy (FWH) the first week of college. Geaux Tigers.

Please meet NEH. She is so kind and warm hearted. Level headed and will be a friend thru thick and thin. I am tryingtwo and the warm words and her charm has helped me on more days and nights than I can mention.

I agree with her. You are more than a BS. You are strong, you have options, you can do anything you set your mind to. No one owns you and no one can take anything away from you. Just don't give it to them.

It might be a very, very bad day. I had mine, on the carpet, crying and insane. I had no idea how to survive, but survive I did and so will you.

So did my friend NEH. Blessings come from all kinds of places. NEH came from SI to me. And she will come to you to if you ask.

You are not alone.

tt

Hi, I'm MsSunshine and this thread came at the perfect time for me. Not long ago I said to my sister that I'm sick of this mess being my identity.

I'm happy for the opportunity to explain my chosen name. The day I joined SI I remember thinking Damn it! I've always been a happy, optimistic person and I'm not going to let him rob me of that. I think it was that quality of optimism in me that allowed me to live for so long with his mean-spirited, controlling and impatient ways. So, I chose a name that I thought would help to keep me strong. I decided that day I was a happy person going through a hard time. And that thinking helped me on my darkest days to find some sunshine somewhere. It worked.

I'm now thirteen months out from DDay and in between mediation and the final divorce and I'm happily alone. I lived alone in my early twenties and loved it. When I married I adjusted to having someone else around all the time and learned how to recharge being together with someone else. Of course, I learned to love that companionship and was lonely in the beginning of our separation. Luckily, I have a saintly family that was there for me every single day. And now I love my independence and freedom and no longer need my family as I did through the roller coaster ride.

I have a career that I love and that consumes me far too much. I've learned balance through this life altering event.

I have two adult children that are wise, compassionate, giving, hardworking, modest, and damn good looking.

Before DDay I was diligent about exercising but now I can be as lazy as sin - and I don't feel one bit guilty about it. But I do love to bike ride and do it daily, walk and I love Zumba.

I also love all things sinful like wine, chocolate, kettle chips and ice cream. In fact, during the infidelity diet I lost thirty to forty pounds and couldn't for the life of me put it back on. About all I could eat was ice cream. I'm now past that crisis stage and the ice cream crutch has to go. I've put back on 8 to 10 pounds.

I've dabbled in many things and mastered none - quilting, knitting, baking, french cooking, italian cooking, and I love learning all things techy.

I have a mental block when it comes to remembering passwords. I live in password hell. I'm going to do something about that this year. I have finally found one awesome password that I'm going to use for everything!

I hate managing money. I was always happy to let my WH manage our money - big mistake. (Please teach your daughters to always keep their own finances separate. Create a household account if you must have a joint account but keep your own account. Put everything in both names.) Once I get the password thing worked out I'm going to have to learn something about investing money even though it bores me to tears. I always figured I worked damn hard to get that money isn't that enough? Pretty silly, I know.

I have two charities that I'm passionate about and I give time and money to both. Working on these projects helped me in my own healing. My situation was a walk in the park compared to some people's lives.

SI was huge in my healing. It taught me so much and was instrumental in keeping me strong and focused. I have met some wonderful friends here that propped me up when the clouds covered my sunshine. I am deeply grateful. (And it's now time to put my money where my mouth is!)

Sending heaps of love and sunshine to you all. MsSunshine

Hello..I am forksintheroad, or forks for short...some who look quickly think its foreskin

I live in MA (born & raised). Met my FWH when we were 16 & working our 1st job at a grocery store. We both attended UMASS Amherst for college & have been married since 2004.

I have 2 daughters ages 5 & 18 months. My 5 year old starts Kindergarten in a few weeks & I am already having anxiety since she will attend all day

I was a paralegal at a law office until we decided being a SAHM was best for our family for now.

I love animals & fostered for a rescue from Tenn for a few years until my 2nd daughter was born. I currently have 2 female rescue Chiuahua's (Winnie & Riley)who HATE eachother & would fight to the death if I did not break them up. I also have 3 cats (Bella, Lyla & Gus).

I love to decorate my home, read, watch murder mystry shows, sleep & listen to music. I love the beach but hate that the sand gets everywhere afterward. I love the heat but enjoy the freezing cold snow days when you just curl up on the couch & watch movies all day. I LOVE Disney World & have been 25+ times.

I dont post too often on SI but I am here EVERYDAY, reading & learning. Funny thing is...I found SI before my DDay. Read an article in a magazine that mentioned SI & I checked it out. I knew on DDay where I had to go. I am so glad to be here too!

I love this thread and am so glad to meet you all. xx

Hi, I am rollercoaster80 or RC80. I am a mom of 4 young adults....all boys. DS23,DS22,DS20 and DS19. I also am stepmom to DD43 and she has 2 kids GDD15 and GDS12. I have many furry kids as well. I am a Jersey girl and a physical therapist. I love my work but have slowed down abit since I was diagnosed with an immune disease....trying to take it easy and bring about full remission. I was the ultimate taxi for my boys and their friends and we still go to concerts together. My kids have moved out then back and I currently have two in their own apartments and two at home, two of my sons friends are also currently staying with us. We have many kids who have stayed with us for one reason or another.

I am also a sister and a daughter who flies up to NJ whenever I can.

My DS20 struggles with addiction so thank you to Skatey0.....I appreciate the hard work all those in this field provide.

Life is tough at times but generally good. I don't know what I would do without SI...I appreciate you all.

It's really nice to "meet" all of you!

I'm tryingagain74, or TA74, or trying. The name originally came from the fact that I wanted to R, and the year is when I was born. Now that I'm LS and on my way to D, I think that my name means that I'm starting life over, so the name still works.

I'm from WNY, born and bred. Went away for college but really wanted to come home. That was but one of the problems STBX had with me, but I digress...

I'm the mom of three great kids, ages 8, 5, and 3. They were away with STBX on a week's vacation and just got home. I'm so happy that they're back! I'm also a HS English teacher, and I credit not only SI but also my time in the classroom, immersing myself in literature, for getting me through DDay and the hell that followed.

I love reading, writing, baking, watching movies, taking bike rides, and spending time with great friends and family.

I had a bad day today, but this thread reminded me how much I should be grateful for. Thank you for that.

Hi! I'm 0907js!

I am a BS but like NEH said so much more than that.

Professionally I have a doctorate in pharmacy and I am a pharmacist/pharmacy manager. I am incredibly type A and I don't think anyone could keep a more organized and efficient pharmacy. I think I am an awesome boss but I have no idea what my employees think.

I am a wife to fWH and home manager. I can't seem to drop the manager hat at home.

I am a mom to a beautiful step daughter who is 11 whom I love as much as my biological child. She is incredibly smart and the biggest chatterbox. I love it so much and when she is away the house is way too quiet! I am also mom to a beautiful 4 year old son with high functioning autism. He is incredibly funny and silly. He enjoys making people laugh and I'm so proud of him. I have one fur baby, a doxie I've been mom to longer than I've known fWH. He is so awesome and has the coolest natural Mohawk (he is a long hair).

I love to travel! I've been to a ton of places in the states (favorites include California, NYC and Florida and FL keys) and also Mexico, Bahamas, Cozumel, Belize, and Honduras. My current wish list is Italy, Hawaii, Rio, England and so on. We go to a different place every year!

I love love love to read! Currently I've been reading mysteries and thrillers. I'm hooked on the Jack Daniels series and am working my way through those. I also love Sookie Stackhouse, anything by Jodi Picoult, and the Hunger Games.

When I have time to watch TV I enjoy House, Dexter, and True Blood. I like all the Marvel movies most recently The Avengers and Spiderman. Anything that can get my mind off this A stuff.

I am learning how to ballroom dance...so far I can do a basic foxtrot and swing. I also enjoy mani/pedis and hour and a half long massages! I love technology! I have anything you can own from Apple and I could not live without my iPhone. I would be lost! I wouldn't even know what I was doing tomorrow!

I love my SI family.

I'm gottabekidding..because that was, literally, my first thought once I discovered I had been betrayed. I am a 46 year old mother of a 12 year old, and was widowed for 5 years before I remarried.I am a sister, aunt, daughter, step-daughter, and step-sister, and I love my steps as much as I love my "blood" family. I am a RN that currently works in home health, but the ER/ICU is my true love. I have a wicked sharp sense of humor; my favorite saying is "in this crazy world, you've got to either laugh, or cry..laughing doesn't mess up the make up".. I love the beach in the summer, often go 3-4 times each year. I love Fall, sunrises, sunsets, dogs, and can tolerate a cat. I have been known to pick up strays off the side of the road, and find them new homes.I know lots of people, but have only a few "true" friends. I have a gentle soul, but will fight like a grizzly for those who can't fight for themselves. Have just recently realized two things..(1)I am in a false R..he has started crossing boundaries, again and (2) that it doesn't really matter. I have come to the point where I have decided that if I catch him again, it's over...and I will be just fine.

Hi I am NMD. I am a psych nurse practitioner, but currently run a couple online businesses and am not practicing as a health care provider.

I have a 13 year old son, that I homeschool. I have 2 dogs and 2 cats.

I live in the beautiful AZ desert :).

LOVE this!

I'm whatjusthappened, or wjh.

I was born and raised in Hawaii. I would move back there in a heartbeat - it will always be home - but unfortunately my "haole" (Caucasian) H would be highly stigmatized and his job options are limited. For the time being, we live in AZ, but I'm no desert rat and would kill to be near the ocean again.

I am part Hawaiian, Chinese, Korean, German, Irish, Scottish, Indian, French, and Portuguese. I was adopted at birth by two amazing parents who may not have given birth to me, but who made me who I am today.

I am petite and mild-mannered, but for some reason, am often told that I'm intimidating. I suppose it's because I don't have a good brain-mouth filter, and I tend to say what's on my mind.

I am a mother to two of the most beautiful, caring, intelligent boys. They are my pride and joy. They will also very likely be the death of me! They make me laugh, cry, think, and want to be a better person - all within the course of a few hours, usually.

I am a ridiculously committed football fan. I was raised in a household where we went to church early so we could be home in time for the games. My boys and I share this passion together.

I love to travel, and am hoping to hit Paris next year.

I also love to cook, entertain, shop, swim, run, and just walked 60 miles in the Komen 3Day.

The best compliment you can give me is to compliment my children. The second best compliment you can give me is to say I'm a true friend.

TT, you made me cry. Thank you for your kind words. We REALLY need to get togehter again soon.

It's so good to read about everyone, and what an interesting and varied group we are.

Thanks for sharing on this thread - and TT is right, I may not post so much these days, but I will do my best to help anyone of you any time.

Hi,

My name comes from the way I felt when I found out.

I am a loner by nature but enjoy being with people. I can make conversation with anyone and I love to talk. I love it so much that I talk to myself and my dogs all day LOL.

I have a weird sense of humor that both my kids also have . We get tickled at the strangest things but it is fun. Though I have gotten looks from even them when I start cracking up for no reason. Well, they see no reason, I had one :)

I am very good at fixing things, like a Mrs, FIX it. I love doing tile, wood flooring, building, plumbing, etc. Some people find it strange that I can do all that. They go by my appearance. I am a very small woman and I guess they think only a man should do it. I choose to be amused by them.

I love reading and going to the beach. Even better reading at the beach. Kindle became my new best friend when it came out. I have over a 1,000 books and was running out of places to put them.

I am blunt, outspoken, have a good sense of humor, I love my family and my dogs. I am many things, I just let being betrayed over run.

Thanks for doing this thread. It reminds me of who I really am.