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allhopegone ( member #37465) posted at 3:31 AM on Thursday, November 15th, 2012
and I don't understand how I still hav thoughts of a happy R. Maybe we are the delusional ones
allhopegone ( member #37465) posted at 3:39 AM on Thursday, November 15th, 2012
ok now I'm on a rant. Her oldest D (16) doesn't want to be around her , her mom wants to strangle her and I certainly don't want to spend turkey day perpetuating her f'd up fantasy world She has so screwed up what was once a great family life. But, it's all my fault that everbody including her friends have cut her off 
DesmondH ( member #36358) posted at 5:01 AM on Thursday, November 15th, 2012
*sigh* how twisted her mind must be. Stay strong.
Me: 47
DDay July 17, 2012
Divorced 11/8/2012
"When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door we do not see the one that opened"
-Alexander Graham Bell
WontStop (original poster member #36246) posted at 1:38 PM on Thursday, November 15th, 2012
It's the delusion of hormones and ego. WW thinks she is in a fairytale and he is her knight in shining armor. She is mad at her mother too, so her being on my side doesn't help much. I'm so sad about all of this. I lose my home, my family life, and my wife all in one fell swoop.
D-Day 5/18/2012
Me-42 WW-46
D-13 S-9
Status: Divorced
keptmyword ( member #35526) posted at 8:36 PM on Thursday, November 15th, 2012
Ah, yes. Another child-minded adult fuck-up. She's what I call my STBXWW: A Runner. She runs from her personal issues and problems by deluding herself. Some people find that very easy to do - like my WW. Her life mantra has become that of being irresponsible, uncommitted, and chock-full of excuses for herself.
She essentially has a huge stinking turd on her hands that she has spray painted the color gold and she looks at it and says "Pretty!". She can look and admire it all she wants but nothing will change the fact that it is still a big turd. And it stinks.
It has nothing to do with you.
Filed for and proceeded with divorce.
jimbo25319 ( member #31891) posted at 2:54 AM on Friday, November 16th, 2012
Your situation in maddening, but the solution is rather simple:
Tell her unless it's about kids or finances, do not text, call, or contact you.
Sometimes you just need to be an azz:
"no, we cannot be friends".
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 6:34 PM on Friday, November 16th, 2012
I hated the idea of him leaving, and I put up with way too much till I said "enough".
When he left, all I remember feeling was peace. It was peaceful in the house, the kids were playing quietly... it felt like a huge burden had been lifted from my shoulders. I felt relief.
I hope you feel something similar on the 20th.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
CheatedOnToo ( member #19630) posted at 3:47 PM on Saturday, November 17th, 2012
I hate to be a vindictive prick, but I am kind of looking forward to the day my STBXW wakes up and realizes that I'm the only person who ever gave a fuck about her. When she comes crawling back, I can tell her she had her chance and that I won't let her screw me up any worse than she already has.
Me: 38
Her: 38
Together 18 years
Married 17 years
D-day: 4/5/08
Kids: S-17, S-15, D-9
Status: Divorcing any day now. And damn does it feel good!
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