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I agree. Great post from KeptMyWord as well as the rest and thanks for sharing your experiences.

And you're right about the fact that I'm holding on to something that's dead; that I'm not doing right for myself; all that. I just know that she would not get down on her hands and knees and come back. Her pride would not allow that. I could be wrong!

I mean I also never dreamed she would cheat either, right?!?

I just know that she would not get down on her hands and knees and come back. Her pride would not allow that. I could be wrong!

I've had the hands and knees and it was all false. I wanted him fixed, not begging. Read about regret vs remorse in the healing library. Begging is a sign of regret and a classic manipulation tactic.

Everyone reaches a point where they've had enough, they've been hurt enough, they've allowed themselves to be hurt enough. You haven't reached it friend but you will.

You'll know when you've reached it - one of the signs is you'll find your anger. Then you'll focus on you - not on her. Then you'll make choices - not sit around waiting for her to choose you.

Right now she is not choosing you. Not out of pride but out of a broken fucked-up-ness.

How much this hurts is up to you.

No judgement - I've been where you are friend and it sucks arse so bad I couldn't think straight. I thank fuck every day that I'm not still in that place, that I'm not still in that M, that I'm not still with that shit human being, that I finally loved myself more than that. Every.single.day.

[This message edited by StrongButBroken at 9:46 PM, April 13th (Saturday)]

It's been said many times that filing for D is just the first step.

It's a long way (in most states) till you sign on the dotted line.

So file for YOURSELF!!

Will she actually come around? who knows. It doesn't sound like it. It sounds like she just keeps dropping you enough crumbs to keep you guessing!

Scary? hell yes. But it might be the best thing for YOU.