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I got this idea from our MC...

Basically she said to me, list all the things about the Affair Partner, and ask yourself if this is the type of person that a RATIONAL PERSON would want a relationship with, key word being rational...

So here it is...

My Wife's Affair Partner resume:

1. Kicked out of the Army for a Personality Disorder (Sociopath)

2. Divorced Twice

3. Second wife was and is a Russian Mail Order Bride prostitute (absolutely 100% serious)

4. Has 3 current Domestic Violence Protective Orders, and 1 pending

5. Maintains no physical or emotional contact with his 4 children from 1st wife(also a protective order)

6. Is not allowed to possess firearms

7. His love shack consisted of some kitchen utensils and a mattress on the floor

8. Was released from a mental hospital 2 weeks before hooking up with my wife

9. Drinks about a case of cheap beer each night, and drives semi trucks during the day (Stay off the road)

10. Maintains no permanent address due to drifting

11. Hits on married women while the men are fighting in the Middle east (my Wife was in a long list of women)

12. After their first time he called her "a hit and run fuck"

13. Wanted to marry her in Vegas after the first week of the affair

14. Divorced his first wife, married his second wife, divorced his second wife, and was sleeping with my wife all within 5 months

15. Is a coward (nothing more to say)

May God Bless Us All

Fun! My WH's APs fall into one of these categories

1. Stripper with drug problems, abusive husbands/pimps, or multiple abortions

2. Night club hostess who moved to the city with big dreams

3. Spoiled brat addicted to pills

4. Will have sex for money (or a warm place to sleep)

WH's AP:

1. Married at least twice

2. Multiple affairs within marriages

3. One husband destroyed all photos of her taken during their time together

4. Only sibling has no interest in staying in contact with her

5. She hates children, doesn't want any because they would disrupt her lifestyle

6. Alcoholic - drinks to black out state. Spends many mornings vomiting

7. Willing to offer up her companies private files in exchange for sex

8. Work history shows she averages less than 2 years at a job (she's in her late 40s now)

9. None of her friends have known her longer than she was at her last job.

10. Her own husband said not to believe a word that comes out of her mouth and that she is only out for herself

Hmmmm. NPD?

my fap yes irrational

1. drug addict

2.sexual predator

3.on a drug to block opitaes that he sold to others

4. no license

5.alcoholic

6.2 different baby mommas

7.no car

8.on probation

9. violating probation no job.

10.cheated on present wife and others.

yup I would say pretty irrational!

Been triggering today so it's not wise for me to do. Think I should have MrH do this exercise though.

Sleeps with her suborinates, and has them do part of her work, in order for her to obtain a promotion.

AP Resume

-Will meet married strangers on the internet and invite them to her father’s house.

-Will meet a married stranger at the door in a bathrobe and have sex on her father’s hideabed before learning the stranger’s name or anything about him.

-25 year old supposedly has no problem having sex with 70 year old grandpa.

-Has had multiple As with married men.

-Can’t hold a regular job because it’s too hard to get up and go to work.

-Has outstanding warrant.

-Shoplifter.

-Engages in bar fights; gets thrown out of strip clubs.

-Will lie about how many times the stranger makes her come to feed his ego.

-Will hint for married man to buy her gifts (purses, clothing, flat screen tv). Wanders malls with married men.

-Doesn’t think it’s fair the man’s wife has a pension; thinks he should get it in the fantasy divorce.

-Only eats appetizers and drinks cocktails because she’s so dainty.

-Doesn’t think it’s fair the man would give his wife a car during the fantasy divorce.

-Thinks the married man should tell his children about the AP; will make up stories about how the married man and AP met because the truth is embarrassing.

-Does not keep appointments; routinely late. Lies about reasons.

-Offers to hire stripper for threesome (my wh didn't bite).

-Loves champagne and wine splits; has to get drunk before having sex with married grandpa.

-Exploits “asthma” whenever convenient. Feels like a victim. Thinks everyone is mean to her.

-Taunts married man when he has family obligations. Feeds him lies to tell his wife.

-Has child out of wedlock.

Get involved with this nutbag at your own risk. Guaranteed devastating consequences for anyone who comes in contact with her.

[This message edited by struggling16 at 10:42 AM, February 3rd (Sunday)]

Fun!. Yeah!.

I've got about 30 resumes to list so I'll be back in a bit....

I'll pick out the best ones!. (said with sarcasm)

Promise!

The Company Mattress. Period.

I'll play...

...Divorced twice

...physically fought with another BW (not me) in the elevator of the hospital she works at

...punched her kids in the face

...sleeps with all kinds, men, women, single, married...I guess it just doesn't matter

What a winner!

My turn:

1. Pregnant at 16/17 - no child. started having sex with men in their 20's when she was 14. CSA anyone?

2. Two children out of wedlock, same father

3. 20 years younger than H who was her boss.

4. Married someone on the sex offender list.

5. started affair with H 4 months into her marriage.

6. Continued affair while pregnant with her H's baby. (this grosses me out)

7. now claims she is gay.

(Side note, after the 100th time that WH said that AP was a good person, I rattled off her finest qualities and asked WH if he would be proud if our daughter sported the same resume. He was speechless)

Now, possible OW is a step up

1. college educated

2. divorced

3. 5 years younger than H

4. well respected in her profession

I believe this second one is a one-sided EA. I am not sure she completely understands boundries, but apparently WH needs this attention.

Ugh, don't remind me.

1.)Had child at 16.

2.)Arrested many times. Booked on felony charges twice - aggravated assault (got out of her car, pulled someone out of theirs and beat them up) and felony forgery.

3.) Scorpion tattoos above her boobs.

The list used to be longer, but I'm starting to care less and less... hey, that's a good thing!

1. Fired from at least two jobs for stealing from company.

2. Convicted of embezzlement

3. Filed for bankruptcy ... THREE TIMES

Chapter 7 in the 1990s and more recently Chapter 7 followed by Chapter 13.)

4. Civil judgement after latest bankruptcy for failure to pay debts

5. Multiple affairs

6. DWI conviction

7. After his BS divorced him, he moved 1,000 miles away, leaving little contact with his child.

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I've read many times on SI.com that affair stories often share similarities. I've already accepted that this conventional wisdom is true. MadMichael, you've just pointed out another similarity to all of us. I bet your MC could have predicted what we'd all say.

[This message edited by ACRC at 5:46 PM, January 25th (Friday)]

I don't like this thread!

Special education teacher

Tall

She is an actual functioning adult who loved a married man. I'd give anything to know something awful about her!

WH's AP

1. 3 kids -3 baby daddy's

2. Never finished high school

3. Covered neck to toe in tatooes -some cartoon characters in there

4. Has 9 or 10 prescriptions from her psychiatrist including, dilaudin, Xanax, Ritalin

5. Addicted to recreational oxy

6. Smokes pot with her teenager

7. At the time of the EA, was living for 9 years with bf, and had a 6 year bf on the side (who was married in the beginning - another coworker)

8. Cocktail waitress who has a note from her psychiatrist letting her call in sick whenever she wants despite casino policy -works 2 or 3 days a week

9. Complained to the men at work that her bf's penis was too big making sex painful

10. Fake boobs

11. Never owned a home - bf on the side bought her a car then she promptly ditched him to spend time with my hubby

12. Can't spell or use proper grammar

13. No friends - just her male admirers

14. Family avoids her - she skipped her fathers funeral

15. Alcoholic

Ick!!

convicted felon

prositiute

former meth head

unemployed

children grew up in the foster care system (she loves kids )

Had an 8 yr relationship with a man who supposedly died of cancer and his family shunned her..(He is alive and well living in another state)

And of course is just a slut

Susan! I've got one for you!

She has no morals - willing to destroy a family to meet her own twisted needs.

That says it all...

She has no morals - willing to destroy a family to meet her own twisted needs.

That says it all...

1.Selfish

2.Stupid

3.Divorced

4.Had sex with 5 other men that I know of ( most of whom worked in same building as her & WH) during the same 6 mo period that she had A with WH

(just think of how many STDs I have probably been exposed to!)

5.Needed to take in "roomates" in order to pay her mortgage, even tho she made a decent living, probably because she has a drug habit

[This message edited by mchercheur at 8:00 PM, January 25th (Friday)]

ACRC, your comment about the similarities of so many elements of our stories makes such sense...

So simple, yet so ironic...

Thanks for sharing that...

OW#1

1. Finds old friends on the internet and sleeps with them.

2. Does #1 while married to her second husband.

3. Has two children by two different fathers and is divorced from both and working on a new relationship, where she will probably cheat.

4. Lives in Ghettoville in a trashy, run down house.

5. Has had several PO's against different men.

6. Believes what she did was the right thing.

OW#2

1. Christian who sees nothing wrong with what she did. (I'll add that I am a Christian too and I see all sorts of things wrong.)

2. Father is a preacher and mother is a chili cookoff winner.

3. Parents live with her.

4. Never sees her son and wanted my girls.

5. When she divorced, they had to put the ad in the paper because her ex ran.

6. Tries to lure men in with tight dresses, promises of money, and a trailer in the woods that her parents own.

7. Will never be more than a bus boy and is proud of it.

8. Goes out with men who are strangers all the time and gets drunk.

9. Stupid and did I mention stupid?

10. Narcissistic. It's all about her.

11. Posts pictures of her spider bites and church adventures on the internet, but rarely posts about her child. Also, posts pictures of her body only, clothed with no head. I find that last one interesting and strange all at the same time.

12. Sounds like Minnie Mouse and talks like a zombie.

13. Sends Father's Day cards with references to farts and shit...to a man she has no children with.

14. Has donkey teeth.

15. Takes trips with married men, however, spends NO time with her own child.

16. Wonders why she has relationship problems.

17. Is very proud that she owns a washer and a dryer, probably that her parents gave her.

18. Supposedly just asks random questions that have nothing to do with the conversation.

19. Cannot drive as she has had 8 or 9 tickets, two in 6 months.

20. Just all around weird.

I still can't figure out what he saw in either one.

Edited to add to the second OW.

[This message edited by Sleepless22 at 8:31 PM, January 26th (Saturday)]