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TarheelMom (original poster member #35726) posted at 12:12 AM on Friday, February 22nd, 2013
We'll be married 10 years in April. I really don't want to count one of those years... but it has brought us to where we are, and we were married the whole time... so I guess I am. I don't want to not count it at the same time. You understand, I'm sure. Anyway. 10 years in April.
We're surviving. Most days are good. We have a lot of happy times and he's done SOOO much to make things better. The few rough days are really rough, but getting back on track is easier and is team work. We're making it. I'm glad.
So fWH has said that whatever I want out of our anniversary is what we will do. He wants to live up to my expectations and make it all I'm dreaming of... or ignore it if that is what I want. Our budget is pretty small right now, too... since he did quit his job for me and all.
I like his attitude. He understands. Last year's anniversary was right before DDay and once I found out, all of the sweet things he said at our anniversary dinner had such a different meaning. I hated every minute of it in hindsight.
So, I think we are going to renew our vows this year. We've talked about it since DDay, and we had talked about doing it every 10 years since we got married anyway. Something really small, just us, nice and simple.
I would like to get something engraved in our rings. I don't hate my rings, and I have never broken my vows to him, so the meaning of his ring hasn't changed. I know some people have problems with their rings after an A, but I haven't found that I have so much.
What I'm looking for are some ideas for one word to have engraved inside each of our wedding bands. With some meaning of what we have been through. Any ideas?
Knowing ( member #37044) posted at 12:32 AM on Friday, February 22nd, 2013
I'm considering having the words "love, joy, peace, courage" tattooed on my wedding finger so that I can stop wearing a wedding band. It's been years since my wedding band fit properly.
Those words are part of a commitment I have made to all aspects of my life, not just my M, so I'm comfortable with having those words tattoed whether fWH and I stay together or not.
[This message edited by Knowing at 6:33 PM, February 21st (Thursday)]
BW, R last 4 years of marriage out of 15... FINALLY, HAPPILY DIVORCING!
We are in R.
TarheelMom (original poster member #35726) posted at 12:27 PM on Friday, February 22nd, 2013
We've talked about doing tattoos also. I'm just not quite ready yet.
Lucky ( member #6864) posted at 7:49 AM on Wednesday, June 5th, 2013
♥ WINE - the other fruit juice! ♥
itainteasy ( member #31094) posted at 2:21 PM on Wednesday, June 5th, 2013
forgivingnow ( member #33549) posted at 2:40 PM on Wednesday, June 5th, 2013
"strength" "courage"
Congratulations on 10 years!! Did you do a vow renewal?
We celebrate 30 years of marriage this month. I understand what you mean when you say you don't want to 'count' one of the years...
At 1 year from dday, I felt the same way...didn't want to count 5 years...at 27 months from dday and celebrating 30 years of marriage with the man who is now the husband of my dreams, I'm counting all the years. We have a REAL marriage. After dday when things were really bad we decided to hold on tighter and make something we both wanted.
I hope you are proud and happy of how strong you are and can celebrate your 10 years this whole year. 
Me-BS 57
FWH-57
M 37yrs.
Dday 3-19-11, TT 10/2011, Full truth July 2013
Strength comes from within. You can't get it from someone or go somewhere to get it. It is already here, waiting to be used when you need it most. Believe in yours
madeincanada ( new member #37746) posted at 3:10 PM on Wednesday, June 5th, 2013
Awesome and congrats to both of you. We are planning the same thing, we are going to have celtic bands custom made !!! Sort of a new begining. Something cool we did that we absoluetly love is .... got tatoos !!!...a celtic love knot.... Our kids were like "whattttttttt the". We are recovering well , facing some challenges, we will make it and when we are ready we too will renew.Thank You for the positive post.
doesitgetbetter ( member #18429) posted at 5:32 PM on Wednesday, June 5th, 2013
DDay - Dec '07
Me - BS
Him - WS
Us - working on R - again
May 18, 2010 - I forgave him fully!
D-day 2 July 4, 2015, turns out he is a SAWH, status, working harder than before
May 22, 2019 -slip/relapse. He forgot he has to work forever
TarheelMom (original poster member #35726) posted at 2:28 AM on Thursday, June 6th, 2013
We did renew our vows, it was a beautiful ceremony that we wrote. Just us, two couples we know that we are close to (to take pictures!) and our son. It was a perfect day from start to finish.
A year ago, I never thought we'd get here.
We never got anything engraved in our rings... we couldn't decide and ran out of time to do it before our anniversary. Next year!
Knowing ( member #37044) posted at 3:53 AM on Thursday, June 6th, 2013
BW, R last 4 years of marriage out of 15... FINALLY, HAPPILY DIVORCING!
We are in R.
karmahappens ( member #35846) posted at 4:20 AM on Thursday, June 6th, 2013
I like the idea of engraving the rings.
the journey
Because it's a forever kind-of trip ;)
[This message edited by karmahappens at 10:21 PM, June 5th (Wednesday)]
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd
still-living ( member #30434) posted at 9:49 AM on Thursday, June 6th, 2013
I quit wearing my ring. My wife surprised me by melting it down and combined it with other gold she wasn't using, including her high school ring, and gave me a new larger ring. Inside it, she engraved, "Trust and Love Forever" She did this on her own.
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