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 allmessedup (original poster member #25265) posted at 1:09 AM on Monday, March 18th, 2013

No the poly is for her peace of mind my M is over according to her. No make or break I broke it already

Me WH
BW bzkat
In the hell I created

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OktoberMest ( member #34173) posted at 1:27 AM on Monday, March 18th, 2013

OK. Sorry to hear that but I can't say I'm surprised.

I'm just not sure whether it will actually help either of you move on. How do YOU feel about it.


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 allmessedup (original poster member #25265) posted at 1:34 AM on Monday, March 18th, 2013

im ready to take it and it doesnt suprise me either after all the tourture I put her through nut when she sees im telling the truth maybe she can heal

Me WH
BW bzkat
In the hell I created

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Unagie ( member #37091) posted at 2:12 AM on Monday, March 18th, 2013

Seriously stop giving her timelines. Maybe people here will disagree with me but you're putting her through hell and she does not deserve it. If you've lied to her as many times as you've taken back your story on these forums then its not a surprise that she doesn't want the M she's given you so many chances. WORK ON YOU!!! Leave her alone. Focus on your job, your life, being a good father and an authentic person. Focus on you and only you and leave her alone all you can do is continue the pain until you figure yourself out and start making changes. Stop with the pitying, the self flagellation, the woe is me and do some freaking work on yourself man.


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cinnamongurl ( member #37879) posted at 4:28 AM on Monday, March 18th, 2013

^^^^what Unagie said here. What's the point of exposing her to any more pain!?!? You NEED to do some serious work! This lying has got to stop! Right now, broken AMU is not healthy. You need to get healthy for you. To stop lying to yourself and really dig into the reason for all the lying.

Me:FWS 42 He: FBS 43 and my heart
Together 22 years. We survived infidelity. "Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it." Tori Amos

CG

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UnexpectedSong ( member #21761) posted at 5:51 AM on Monday, March 18th, 2013

Does the number 26 reflect actual completed transactions? Are there dozens more which were attempts not completed?

WW(SA)
"Feedback is the breakfast of champions." - Boris Becker

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EmotionalFool ( member #37362) posted at 4:43 PM on Monday, March 18th, 2013

Just let her and kids go!!! Stop torturing them like this.

What confuses me the most is WHY do you post here?? Seriously why?? What are the kind of responses you are looking for? It doesn’t even matter the number of PAs / EAs you have had. Even if you declare tomorrow that you had none and you just made everything up.. still the torture that you are putting her through right now is enough to drive anybody crazy.

Doesn’t matter what you have done in the past. What are you doing now? Why are you dragging your kids in this mess?? Why wont you leave ur wife alone at least till the time she gets her sanity back?

WW: 28 (ME)
BH: 28 (SI profile: CrappyLife)
D-Day- 15/10/12

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She-Ra ( member #36033) posted at 9:26 PM on Monday, March 18th, 2013

Agreed with unagie.. Stop giving her timelines already.

Everytime I see your username come up in the wayward section with a thread... It's "I'm so selfish, I finally gave my BW a solid timeline, and one day I'll take this poly". I hope you just stop e-mailing your timeline of whether it's 31, 15, 26 or 19 affairs.

The best thing you can do for your BW at this point is to make the divorce proceedings go smoothly, be a good dad to your kids and focus on becoming a healthy person.

Former story began here July 2012
We were mad-hatters. I was a WW first then a BS. Separated May 2017. 2 kids.

Met my new beginning May 2019 just discovered his EA Oct 2020 4 days after we bought a house

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