I used to remember feeling angry that the OM had no consequences to his actions. LH and I seemed to be paying the price and LH hadn't even DONE anything wrong....
Then it went away. I stopped caring about him or his consequences because I realised that the consequences to him made NO difference to my life or to LH's life. Likely as not the OM has gone on to form another relationship...and will carry the same baggage plus some from the A with him into that. At some point his unhealthy ways of dealing with shit will crop up and he'll face another decision...or may be he actually did recognise the mess he helped to make and sought out how to become healthy himself.
Either way it makes no impact on my life. We are NC with this guy and his friends or colleagues. We found out on the grapevine his business went bust - but then we heard he passed that off with he was stepping back from the business to have a family of his own...that was less than a year after dday 
so we know he's lying to the masses and who knows if he's actualy having a family or not <shrug> All that whole information proved to me was he was still lying to people, so I guess I know whether he's changing himself... 
I don't care if he faces consequences or not. I really don't. The only reason I face consequences is because I choose to own my shit and stay and work on my M. I choose that whether LH wants to R in the long run or not. LH faces the consequences of my actions because he wants to R and now is recognising some wayward stuff in himself too. Most waywards or APs will not choose to face the consequences. I know I didn't for a very long time. Not until about 15 months ago in fact. Why would you unless you had too? Most waywards that don't R, don't because they won't or don't want to face the consequences. It's hard, why would they?
I don't remember actively getting over that anger or feeling of injustice. Maybe it's when I realised my life was all about choices. My choices. And I could choose good things or bad things. What I can't do is chose for anyone else. Not LH and certainly not the OM.
In fact if I really sit and think about it now, what I feel towards the OM is disappointed. Nothing else really. And that's only because of the whole sorry thing. I have seen him since and I felt disappointed then too. At me, at the OM and at what we'd done to LH. I didn't want to see him then, and I don't now. I'm not sure nothing genuinely exists after someone has been involved in helping you destroy your M....there are too many negative emotions that run through the WS and BS to have nothing left.....but who knows. Maybe in a decade or two?
