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TrustGone ( member #36654) posted at 3:43 AM on Saturday, April 6th, 2013
I remember the feeling well. I also felt sort of melancholy after my D from XWH#1. I wasn't really upset about the D, but it was sad looking back at all the years wasted and that my son had to grow up with seperate parents in two households. It just seemed such a waste. My XWH#1 was a recovering alcoholic who just traded that for other things. It was a shame that after I filed for D, he went off the wagon after not drinking for years. He finally got himself straight on the alcohol, but he still has issues.
Luckily by the time the D was final I was indifferent to him, but was still sad for the way things turned out in the end. (((HUGS)))
XWH#2-No longer my monkey Divorced 8/15, Now married to a wonderful man.
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"
redvixen ( member #15259) posted at 4:06 AM on Saturday, April 6th, 2013
((((((((((hexed)))))))))
I think no matter how much you may even want the divorce, it still hurts. It's a kind of death: of dreams, of future plans, of the vision you had of your life in your head. Once it's final, you move on, but it still makes you sad.
When I divorced XH 1, I remember leaving the courthouse, and watching him walk away across the parking lot. He was an alcoholic, emotionally abusive, and we'd been separated for over a year but he was still my sons father..and it hurt.
I'm sorry you're hurting.
Me, BS Him WS early 40's at the start, cheated before and after cancer diagnosis.
Two A's, two OW's, online looking for sex partners, two false R's.
Threw him out in January 2009.
Divorce final March 30th, 2010
XWH died Dec. 2010
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