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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 12:18 PM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
Game on, indeed. Coraline - you protect what you need to protect here. We ALL understand and support you keeping your cards close to your vest.
Know that without any specifics, even without you posting and asking for it, you've got the entire SI army behind you all the way.
Strength to you, honey!
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
CharlieFoxtrot ( member #38010) posted at 1:02 PM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
Coraline, I really like your bitch boots! Go get 'im, girl!!
Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.
stillstrong ( member #36144) posted at 4:10 PM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
Know that without any specifics, even without you posting and asking for it, you've got the entire SI army behind you all the way.
^^^THIS^^^
Me BS 47
Him WS 51
DDay LTA Feb 21, 2006
R until DDay 2EA's 1/31/12 ONS 2/5/12 Broken NC 7/12/12
Moved out 9/12
Legally Separated 3/13
stretch13 ( member #26894) posted at 5:34 PM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
i busted into a cheer-you-on, growling, hell-yeah grin when i read your title!!!
git em
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Coraline (original poster member #36434) posted at 8:20 PM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
Thank you all so much! I am so glad my friend referred me to SI!
Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.
Coraline (original poster member #36434) posted at 10:55 PM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
Oooohhh, snap, y'all. Good things just keep happening, and I definitely can't share details, just in case, but let's all sing a hallelujah chorus and celebrate the end of this shit. It might still take a while, given that he is an asshole, but this is going my way.
[This message edited by Coraline at 4:56 PM, April 10th (Wednesday)]
Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.
Holly-Isis ( member #13447) posted at 11:03 PM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
What a big relief!
"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*
Coraline (original poster member #36434) posted at 11:12 PM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
Yeah, except that if he sees me looking like I'm not suffering sufficiently, he is going to amp up his bad behavior. I guess that means the next week will be...not fun. Or maybe he finally gets it that this isn't going to work and he can't bully me and intimidate me and just freaking making me miserable enough to do what he wants..... Nah. He's gonna act like an ass.
Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 11:22 PM on Wednesday, April 10th, 2013
Put on your "woe is me, life is so difficult" mask, and gaslight his ass. 
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 5:05 AM on Thursday, April 11th, 2013
Put on your "woe is me, life is so difficult" mask, and gaslight his ass.
This!!!!!!!
Make that gaslighting work FOR you for a change.
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 5:08 AM on Thursday, April 11th, 2013
I agree. Gaslight his m-fing ass and see how he likes it for a change. Take that, bee-yotch!
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
Bluebird26 ( member #36445) posted at 9:24 AM on Thursday, April 11th, 2013
Good for you Caroline, I am so proud of you honey, you have come a long way. Keep the 'act' up though. Best of luck
Me: BW
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Life's good.
stronger08 ( member #16953) posted at 9:36 AM on Thursday, April 11th, 2013
In my experience a good offense is the best defense.
You cant eat soup with chopsticks.
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 8:32 PM on Thursday, April 11th, 2013
Amazing what a little bit of education will do for your nerves.
Glad you got educated, Coraline. His education will come in time.
Hugs,
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
Coraline (original poster member #36434) posted at 9:22 PM on Thursday, April 11th, 2013
I hadn't even thought of that, Kajem. Yes, he'll get his. It seems funny now that I was so worried about the stupid lies he would tell. Judges see these things ALL the time, and so do custody evaluators and lawyers and everyone else. It was funny sitting in the room and hearing, "And then he [did this/said that], right?" and they would be right every time. They so have his number. It's very comforting to know how predictable he is to everyone who has experience with this.
So now I'm at the point where I think it's horrible that he's going to do this to his kids, but I'll get a better settlement in court than I was willing to take if he stayed out, because in court I'll get my fair share of everything, and the kids... Duh. They go with me, because everything he says about me is *provably* false.
Me: BW, 34 Him: WH, 35
3 Kids: 9, 3, and 1
Decree nisi will become absolute in January. We are DONE.
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