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I posted earlier about him wanting me to leave asap. Today he is hell bent on getting a roommate and is saying he will move this "old friend" in this weekend.(i know this friend happens to be a pot head) He asked me what bedroom I wanted to empty out for this roommate. I have been ignoring the texts.

Can he do this??? I just filed! It is still our joint family home. My lawyer hasn't called me back yet and I am stressed out over this crap.

No, he cannot. Call a women's shelter. He's threatening you. Seriously,

You are not safe. You need to take your concerns to the authorities immediately. I urge you right now to call the non-emergency line for your local law enforcement. Please make this call.

You are not safe. You need to take your concerns to the authorities immediately. I urge you right now to call the non-emergency line for your local law enforcement. Please make this call.

I had called the local sheriffs earlier and they said they cannot do anything if he wants to move somebody in. I hope my lawyer gets back to me early tomorrow!

I'm really proud of you that you already called. That shows you have good instincts. I hope your lawyer calls you back, too. How about you call & leave a 2nd message so they understand this is an urgent matter? Specifically ask for a call back early in the day.

Also, while you're waiting, have you begun working on a safety plan? Have you packed a "go bag"? I had a go bag packed & ready to go at a moment's notice, hidden where he wouldn't find it. Just in case.

PS - Have you talked with your kids about emergency retreats? What to do if someone is hurting Mom? Where to go in the neighborhood for help?

[This message edited by Nature_Girl at 12:09 AM, April 11th (Thursday)]

@Nature_Girl. No, I haven't. I hadn't even thought about talking to the kids about that. I will now, thank you.

as far as a "go bag" Well, I have my suitcase with my important papers & such always ready and I have some items at my parents' home already.

[This message edited by MichelleRenee at 9:03 AM, April 11th (Thursday)]

You have minor children in the house. I can't see where he can legally let people move in at random. I hope your attorney gets back to you quickly. In the meantime, also contact a women's shelter and see what your options are.

I would call the roommate and tell this person you don't want drugs around your children, and that while the sherrif says you can't stop him from moving in that you will not hesitate to call the police every time you even think you smell pot smoke. My guess is he will find someplace else to crash.

His complete lack of regard for the children's well-being should definitely be discussed with your lawyer, btw.