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Took my kids to the park today. I told WH where we were going and he mentioned that he was going there to play basketball later. NBD I thought, it's a big park I can ignore him. So I'm with my 9 month old and this other baby comes up with her mom. Our babies are playing and we're chatting, silly small talk, superficial conversation. All of a sudden I realize that I've seen pictures of this baby before, I turn and look at the mom and her pregnant stomach registers. I say " I know you. You're ow aren't you?" She says "yes" I say "I'm BW" "....oh"

HOLY SHIT. I just spent ten minutes talking to the whore that stole my husband. I'm in shock that my husband could be so evil and cruel. He should have warned me that she was going to be there.

I can't stop crying. This is going to happen all the time, it's such a small community. This wasn't even the closest park, if was like 15 minutes away. I just want this over, I can't do this anymore.

I'm so sorry! That must have been so traumatic!

I can't imagine how difficult that must have been for you. I hope she felt disgusting about herself after meeting you.

I'm so sorry...unbelievable...what did you do after the interaction? How did it end? And for your shitbox to bring her, knowing you'd be there? Just cruel. Thank the stars he is her problem now....

I'm hating him for you right now. A real man would've stayed away from the park. Instead he brought OW and her sproglings.

Doesn't this woman know how to keep her legs closed or use birth control? I really, truly hope that it turns out the latest whelp isn't your WH's and he learns in the most painful way what an idiot he was by throwing away something beautiful by leaving you, your M and the family.

((((Z))))

I just picked up my baby, rounded up DD and DS and left. I knew if I said one more word to her I was going to lose it and the kids (both hers and mine) didn't deserve to see something like that. Then I called WS mom and told on him, lol.

It was really upsetting, it sucked. I bought a bottle of wine and am looking forward to zoning out to a movie with the kids and quietly getting drunk.

Sambas,

How terrible! They are both jerks. I think you handled it amazingly! You can be proud of yourself for that. It was also nice you told his mother too. Good for you.

Is he still living at home with you? Did he tell you that is his baby she is carrying?

I am so sorry.

Sorry about the typo on your name.

I'm so sorry! You acted in a very classy way. Kudos to you. That's so heartbreaking! Hugs mama!

She's a selfish, mean spirited person. She had to have known who you were and she made the decision to be there in your face.

I hate your H too..... That is cruel and inhumane treatment. I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this. My heart goes out to you and you children.

No he moved out on 4/6 the day he told me the affair never stopped and he's known she was pregnant the whole time. They even went to the 12 week ultrasound together. He's convinced it's his, says she wasn't sleeping with anyone else at the time. Unlike him, of course, considering I thought we were working on our marriage :/

How evil. And, disgusting!

What was her reaction to you telling her who you are? Do you think she knew!

Your WH is an ass!

I didn't really wait for her reaction. She just said "oh" as I grabbed my son and looked to round up my older two. I had to get away from her as quickly as possible. I felt violated, this was my time with the kids away from him and this mess. I wanted to relax and play with them and as soon as I let my guard down I got crapped on again.

OMG - that must have been awful.

I don't think it was an accident she was there, and I would be willing to bet she knew exactly who you were.

What a complete and utter bitch she is.

You are incredibly classy, you know. It's an amazing study in contrasts. I'd buy you that bottle of wine if I lived anywhere near you.

I would be willing to bet she knew exactly who you were.

Me too. No one will convince me that an OW will not do everything she can to see what the BW looks like. The whore would have seen herself as competing with you and would not have slept until she knew what you looked like.

The bitch knew. Just shows how sick some of these women are.

Evil is too kind a word for her!!!

OW3 not only knew what I looked like but while screwing my FWH went to MY hairdresser, told her she was a friend of mine, admired my do and asked to have her hair cut and coloured in the same style as mine.

Needless to say I now have mine done in a totally different style and colour. Which BTW I actually prefer!

Put her out of your mind love. She is not worth the space. Take care of yourself and your babies.

BIG HUGS

Laura

This is wicked. She definitely knew it was you the whole time. Probably she wanted to show you the baby bump. Her purpose is solved.

You acted classy.

OMGoodness Z! I am so sorry for that. This past week, my DD forgot something she needed for school at mom's. I drove by, the OM (father of WW 3rd child) was setting the garbage can out. I heard him say "hey DD". Inside, I was saying 'leave my DD alone you little man whore..." As I watched my DD go inside, the OM and I met eyes. He waved and smiled. I gave the courtesy head nod and turned back to my phone. It was the first time we had any sort of communication. Two years ago, I would have jumped out of my car and snuffed the life out of him. For a split second, I wanted to say "hey, how is screwing my still legal wife going?", but I don't care anymore.

Honestly, what happened to me is nothing to what happened to you. My first thought was Hollywood could not have written it any better. That is SO crazy. Don't believe for a second it was not on purpose. That is how I feel. After my WW told me she was pregnant, she wanted me to meet the OM. REALLY?!?!?! "Linus, this is my boyfriend, OM. OM, this is Linus, my husband..."

Anyway, sending thoughts and prayer your way. You will get through it. You may not feel strong now, but you are stronger than you think you are. (((Zamas)))

You're an interesting species, an interesting mix. You're capable of such beautiful dreams and such horrible nightmares. You feel so lost, so cut off, so alone, only you're not. See, in all our searching, the only thing we've found that makes the emptiness bearable is each other. - Contact

That sucks so bad, Zamas. I'm so sorry.

Not sure if you have ventured into the D/S forum, but you might look into CS claims now to protect your little darlings.

Hang in there!

I agree with the others.... SHE knew who you were and wanted to check out the competition. I'm sorry you had to go through that.... You can be proud of yourself for just walking away... I'm afraid I would have ended up in jail....

This was very cruel on his part though. He had to know and was just rubbing it in your face

Take care of you and the little ones- they are the most important thing....

What a malicious, disgusting encounter your WH and the OW arranged.

I am so sorry that you were subjected to this.

I am sooo sorry! I can remember the first time I saw the OW in a normal setting...it was devastating! I was thrown into a funk for quite a while and there were so few people I could talk to about it because those who knew what had happened were getting tired of me whinning about my situation! I know you feel like you have had the wind knocked out of you and that taking the next breath seems impossible but it IS. You are stronger than you think and this WILL get easier. Although I still have triggers that set me off, the spiral is not as far down and the pain is easier to manage. My DS was dating the DD of the OW when my WH had the PA and EA with her and currently our daughters play on the same HS sports teams so I have to see her often. I am ok most days. Unfortunately, the OW's dad (who doesn't know about the affair) walked passed me at softball yesterday with his pit bull and said "This is OW's little brother" and I knee jerk responded "You mean her better looking younger brother"... It was a comment that I should have kept to myself but I word vomited...sadly it made me feel bad to slum on the 'low road' even though my thoughts hang out there a lot it is my actions that matter! I hope you feel better knowing others have been there and survived and we know how you feel. Continue to charge neutral and do what is right for your kids. they are what matter.