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BrighterFuture (original poster member #38914) posted at 8:26 PM on Sunday, April 14th, 2013
My ex-fiance moved out, but I'm still receiving his mails in my inbox. Whenever, I receive them, I leave them unopened on his former desk, the place I used to put them prior to him moving. I have maintained no contact with him, so I haven't communicated with him on how he can pick them up. So, today, I received one of his letters from his bank. I was curious, and eventhough I usually don't open his mails, I opened this one. In the letter, it shows that he requested an address change, and it has his current new address. What should I do with this information now that I know where he lives?
Me:30
Him:31
D-day:2/24/13 (I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time and DS was 15 months)
Status: Parted ways!
"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.
LivinginLimbo ( member #35004) posted at 8:45 PM on Sunday, April 14th, 2013
You should just put a slash through the address with a note that he does not reside here and stick it back in the mailbox.
It's not your job to hold his mail or have it forwarded to where he's now living.
BS - 65
WH - 63
Married 37 years
D-Day 2/12/12
D-Day 6/1/16 Caught him back online early enough that no physical contact took place but still devastating. This sucks.
Got2GO ( member #26576) posted at 9:08 PM on Sunday, April 14th, 2013
Yes, you should write return to sender on all unopened mail. Put that mail back in the mailbox. Write down the new address and keep it in a safe place. You will need to know where he is living so that you can tell the courts when you file for child support.
BS (me) 47
WS (him) 70
Together 7 1/2 years
married 6 years
no children together
Happily divorced 1/29/13!
BrighterFuture (original poster member #38914) posted at 9:09 PM on Sunday, April 14th, 2013
How about if I drop his clothes and other things at his doorstep since he has refused to pick them up? Is that a good idea?
Me:30
Him:31
D-day:2/24/13 (I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time and DS was 15 months)
Status: Parted ways!
"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.
Got2GO ( member #26576) posted at 9:11 PM on Sunday, April 14th, 2013
Oh, one more thing. Put his desk and any of his s**t out for garbage pick up!
BS (me) 47
WS (him) 70
Together 7 1/2 years
married 6 years
no children together
Happily divorced 1/29/13!
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 2:18 AM on Monday, April 15th, 2013
Send the new address to your lawyer so he knows where to serve the papers at. Pack up his shit and call a cab to take it to his new address. And then burn or shred any papers that come in from this point on, that belong to him. But I freely admit I'm feeling a bit grumpy this evening so my advice might not be the best to follow.
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
BrighterFuture (original poster member #38914) posted at 2:58 AM on Monday, April 15th, 2013
I put his stuff in a trash bag then left them at the doorstep of his apartment. Now, I have extra closet space that I can use. I felt good after doing that, I was feeling kinda crappy today. I hope it's legal to do that. I had asked him to come get them but he said I should throw them away. I couldn't throw them away but I couldn't continue to keep them either.
[This message edited by VeryHurtbroken at 9:00 PM, April 14th (Sunday)]
Me:30
Him:31
D-day:2/24/13 (I was 10 weeks pregnant at the time and DS was 15 months)
Status: Parted ways!
"If only I can fight just a little longer, I know it's gonna make me stronger" Jamie Grace-Holding on.
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