Moral Dilemma - There is this woman, I will call her "Jill" (not her real name). XWW and I were mutual friends with her for years while married. She works with XWW. Jill and I would always chat via text now and then about a mutual interest in the same type of music, nothing more. Always friends.
When XWW and I first split, I was very open and honest that I was still talking via text with Jill. XWW asked, out of respect that Jill was now an administrator at her employer (and the school where our kids attend), and her own friendship with Jill, that I not push the friendship further than that, and I agreed, and communicated that to Jill. Everyone seemed happy.
For the last several months we have exchanged a few texts a day, mostly just about day to day life, and music, etc. Much like I would with any other friend. It has never been about XWW or her job, etc. But the friendship has definitely increased to more than just music, etc. We have never met in person, other than running into each other while I pick the kids up at school.
Now, Jill seems to be wanting to push our friendship further (possibly romantic? maybe, I get the sense). I like Jill, she is a wonderful person and someone that I could definitely see myself dating, but given her position as an administrator at my XWW's employer and my children's school, I feel it would be much too complicated to even attempt. It would impact my relationship with XWW, which is vital to the well-being of my children and my access/relationship with them.
Up to this point I have skirted around Jill's attempts to meet up in person, and brushed off her texts that strongly hint at attraction, etc. But she has not backed off or gotten the hint that this just isn't the right time. Not to mention, I have told her several times via text that recovering from this D is going to take a lot of time, and dating is a ways off.
So do I cut off this friendship? Or do I wait and see if she backs off of the romantic stuff? I feel like her actions are pushing things to a breaking point, and putting me into a difficult spot, and to be honest with all I have going, I am feeling kinda resentful toward her for putting me into this position. But my other concern is that I have this great woman interested in me, and I won't be able to pursue it because I am worried about my relationship with XWW. Should I be worried about that?
I am mostly just venting and writing things out, but any input from an outside party would be welcome. Thanks.