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SoHappyNow (original poster member #8923) posted at 1:09 AM on Tuesday, April 16th, 2013
I'm kind of proud of myself. My late husband hurt me in the worst way possible. Yet I forgave him.....twice. I was maybe about 85% healed when we found out he had terminal cancer. I walked through hell. With him at first, and then holding him up for the last 4 months. I held his hand while he died, which was a VERY difficult thing for me to do. I honored him with a party while he could still appreciate it, that featured friends and family telling him how much he had meant to them. And then put on a lovely memorial after he died.
I am still grieving for him. I had a crying jag yesterday. I have worried about how those might affect my guy/boyfriend/lover. He says "Call me so I can come over and hold you while you cry, and you need to cry." Yesterday I did and he did.
But I am a tough and resilient woman. My gut is pretty well educated. And I have been choosing to be happy my entire life.
The start of my new love was very - VERY - confusing to me. But with much thought I decided to go for the gusto. I've been doing that my entire life and see no reason to change at age 64.
After winter comes the spring....
[This message edited by hit-by-a-train at 7:11 PM, April 15th (Monday)]
In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus--------73 now. Dday #1 was 11/11/05 ***Used to be hit-by-a-train*** Widowed, then VERY happily remarried 2/14/14
redvixen ( member #15259) posted at 1:16 AM on Tuesday, April 16th, 2013
(((hit-by-a-train))
My SO and I had rekindled a high school relationship 28 years later, after my divorce from XWH and my split from an XSO. But I don't consider the few dates the beginning of our relationship until the night my XWH died. I spent the last three days in the hospital with my XWH while he lost his battle with cancer and was at his side for his last breath. And that night, my SO held me as I cried myself to sleep. I think it takes a huge heart to hold someone who is crying for a lost love, no matter what the circumstances were. I love my SO for many reasons, but that moment is my favorite one.
Me, BS Him WS early 40's at the start, cheated before and after cancer diagnosis.
Two A's, two OW's, online looking for sex partners, two false R's.
Threw him out in January 2009.
Divorce final March 30th, 2010
XWH died Dec. 2010
MyVoice ( member #35695) posted at 2:21 AM on Tuesday, April 16th, 2013
(((hit-by-a-train))) You are an amazing person and you should be proud! How lucky the man that gets you xxxx
Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown
SoHappyNow (original poster member #8923) posted at 2:48 AM on Tuesday, April 16th, 2013
redvixen and MyVoice.....you are both VERY sweet!
redvixen, what you said:
I think it takes a huge heart to hold someone who is crying for a lost love, no matter what the circumstances were.
is so true. Both of our SOs have a generosity of spirit.
In the depths of winter I finally learned there was in me an invincible summer..Albert Camus--------73 now. Dday #1 was 11/11/05 ***Used to be hit-by-a-train*** Widowed, then VERY happily remarried 2/14/14
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