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homewrecked2011 (original poster member #34678) posted at 2:11 AM on Sunday, April 21st, 2013
My D was final in Oct, but just today I realized I never have to hear his voice again (we text about kids). I never have to see his lumpy grumpy self on the couch pouting. I never have to hear his farting again. I never have to be treated badly again!!!! YAY
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 3:05 AM on Sunday, April 21st, 2013
it's great, huh??
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
newlysingle ( member #38735) posted at 3:38 AM on Sunday, April 21st, 2013
I think about this every night when I'm going to bed. I get the entire bed to myself and I no longer have him snoring and hogging the entire bed.
BW - Me (40)
XWH -The Gnat
"Engaged" to OW, but the wedding appears to be indefinitely postponed.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (8), 1 DS (3)
Dday 3/13
Happily Divorced 9/20/13
risingfromashes ( member #3903) posted at 3:47 AM on Sunday, April 21st, 2013
It is like finally breathing again. Joy!!
FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 5:03 AM on Sunday, April 21st, 2013
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire
Survivor3512 ( member #37946) posted at 5:30 AM on Sunday, April 21st, 2013
That is great!! 
Me (BS)- 36
Divorced
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Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie
SBB ( member #35229) posted at 12:55 PM on Sunday, April 21st, 2013
The lack of tension in mine and my girls day to day life makes this all worthwhile. All.of.it.
Three girls in the house and yet HE was the moody biiiiarrtch. Unbelievable.
I wish I didn't have to learn that lesson the hard way but I sure am glad I did.
I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!
newnormal ( member #21925) posted at 2:28 PM on Sunday, April 21st, 2013
My x used to have farting contests at work . I can tease my adult kids now when they accidentally pass stinky gas and say they got that from their Dad.
BS 43 (me)
FWH 48
D-day 9/07
Dont retreat, reload.
"Pull that knife out of your back - and sever the fuel line to that bus you got thrown under" Bufffalo
exhausted lady ( member #30217) posted at 7:20 PM on Sunday, April 21st, 2013
I never have to hear his farting again
Bwaahaahaa!!!
I soooo relate to that! Isn't it wonderful when you get rid of them and ALL the toxicity they brought into your life? (including the incessant farting)
Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...
God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr
permanentpain ( member #38312) posted at 8:32 PM on Sunday, April 21st, 2013
Me: 32 y/o, student and mom of two of the best kids in the world
Him: 33 y/o scumbag
Divorcing
Feels good to start laughing and feeling better again...
homewrecked2011 (original poster member #34678) posted at 11:27 PM on Sunday, April 21st, 2013
And the farting was on purpose. Yuck.
I hope she (OW) enjoys that sort of thing, it won't be long b4 he starts it up w her.
It's so nice also making my own decisions --- like sending my children to camp. They are going and he can kiss my ass!!!!
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
wontdefineme ( member #31421) posted at 8:58 PM on Tuesday, April 23rd, 2013
Oct for me too and the peace is wonderful.
homewrecked2011 (original poster member #34678) posted at 3:18 AM on Thursday, April 25th, 2013
Ok,,, XWH sent me an email concerning the dates he wants visitation this summer. I usually click on his emails right away, get all po'd, have to calm down, then respond.
So,,,, I'm trying something different. I haven't even opened it. YAY!! He gets a notification when someone opens his emails, so he knows I haven't opened it.
I will open it on Saturday when I am calm and can look it over. He gets first choice anyway.
I think it got under his skin bc he drove by our *oops* MY house this am.
AHHHH,,, I thank everyone on here who kept saying nc nc nc is the only way to heal....
Sometimes He calms the storm. Sometimes He lets the storm rage, but calms His child. Dday 12/19/11I went to an attorney and had him served. Shocked the hell out of him, with D papers, I'm proud to say!D final10/30/2012Me-55
TrustGone ( member #36654) posted at 7:40 PM on Thursday, April 25th, 2013
I always love coming to new beginnings and hearing how the BS is moving on with their lives. It is so enlightening to us BS's who are still trying to figure out which way to go with the bulls$#t sandwich we have been served.
I well remember the free feeling I had after my D from XWH#1 and the things I didn't miss about him. Especially the fighting and silent treatment. I remember it being scary, but also the most fun I had in years. I did new things that I had always been afraid of before. I took more risks and really enjoyed my new found freedom.
The only thing I regret about my NB after D was that I was also vulnerable to someone like my WH#2. I wished I had waited longer before getting involved with anyone but I thought he was wonderful at the time. It really was the happiest I had ever been. I guess that's why his LTA has been so devastating to me. Hopefully my next NB will be a positive turning point. Thanks for the post!!!
XWH#2-No longer my monkey Divorced 8/15, Now married to a wonderful man.
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"
fraeuken ( member #30742) posted at 11:16 PM on Thursday, April 25th, 2013
I play :-)
No more lingering smells that felt toxic after he uses the bathroom and refused to open the window.
No more watching him clean his teeth with a bitten off piece of fingernail.
No more watching him clean his ears with the cap of pen.
No more watching him pick on ingrown hairs.
No more watching him eat with his mouth open.
And, no tension, no raised voices, fun dinners with my girls, finally a functional backyard and deck.
What was I doing all these years?
Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.
fraeuken ( member #30742) posted at 11:16 PM on Thursday, April 25th, 2013
Oops, double post, was too excited :-)
[This message edited by fraeuken at 9:34 PM, April 26th (Friday)]
Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.
asurvivor ( member #32368) posted at 11:38 PM on Thursday, April 25th, 2013
Cleaning his teeth with a broken off finger nail...what the hell?
Who does that?
I've wiped the shit off. It can be wiped off you know.
miadianna ( member #10516) posted at 12:58 AM on Friday, April 26th, 2013
No more watching him clean his ears with the cap of pen.
I thought mine was the only one who did this. He would leave bent, icky, waxy pen caps all over the place or wherever he was sitting around watching TV. I never understood what was wrong with a Q-tip.
Me: BS 60Son: 34years oldDaughter: 32 years old Divorced 4/10/08XH passed away 6/24/16
fraeuken ( member #30742) posted at 3:33 AM on Saturday, April 27th, 2013
Miadianna, I know exactly what you are talking about. Yuck 
It was either the pen cap or his keys.
Cleaning his teeth with a broken off finger nail...what the hell?
Who does that?
Agreed, he started doing that a few years ago. Made me gag every time.
Forgot to mention not having to deal with non-well maintained toe nails. Had to drag him to the doctor to get his toe nail fungus taken care of and ask him to cut his nails so he would not scratch up my legs in bed.
Also, not smelling his bad breath from not brushing his teeth prior to bed - wonderful.
Probably too much TMI, but I could not resist
Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.
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