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Single parent poor me pity vent

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 Bluebird26 (original poster member #36445) posted at 8:16 AM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013

So over it today, sick of dealing with my special needs child on my own. I am exhausted. So over having to deal with the fall out of xwh decisions to put himself & ow first. Why is it so hard to ring your kids a couple of times a week and actually follow through with visitation and actually have them when you are supposed too.

Me: BW

Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.

Life's good.

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Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 8:52 AM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013

((((HUGS))))

Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU

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Safeguard ( member #38899) posted at 10:30 AM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013

It's not self pity. It's HARD.

I raised my sons in a two parent home, and i am raising my only Daughter alone. It is worlds harder than I really understood! I SO get it. I am exhausted too, (and broke lol.).

((Bluebird)) take heart, they do grow up so fast, looking back on my sons who are men now. Your a Great Mom!

"since your actions don't match your words, excuse me while I stop believing you."

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 Bluebird26 (original poster member #36445) posted at 11:23 AM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013

thank you, it will be a new day tomorrow. But today it's hard.

Me: BW

Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.

Life's good.

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tesla ( member #34697) posted at 2:22 PM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013

It sucks when you have to deal with the fallout the kids go through and just the normal things with kids. I tend to get very resentful of ex-shat when I feel like I'm the only one cleaning up vomit or messes or accidents. Or when I feel like I'm the only one doing the discipline.

Deep breath, mama. Today is a new day. And there will be a new joy that xwh misses out on. And you get it all to yourself.

((((Bluebird))))

"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

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JW123 ( member #21265) posted at 2:36 PM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013

Of course you are exhausted and I so feel for you as it is not easy - I don't know what to say, but want you to know you are being heard and to encourage you. On a certain level xWH HAS to know he is a failure - one day it will bite him.

Me (BS) 47
3 beautiful children
D-Day October 2016 - found out about the ex wife!

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lorilook ( member #22393) posted at 2:47 PM on Sunday, April 28th, 2013

(((Bluebird26))) I get it. I know that exhaustion that you speak of. Special needs child here to. XWS hasn't been to a Dr. appt (specialist or otherwise) in 4 years and he lives close. Of course he still has to question my approach and choices in medication. When we were together, he used to say "people just don't understand how challenging our life is. Everything is so much harder for us." Then he up and left and left me to deal with that "harder life" by myself. Now he is just one of those people who doesn't understand.

Me(BS) 44/Him (WS) 47
M-18 years
2 beautiful & resilient children
DDay 12/05/08
False R for 5 months
He moved out 5/1/09
Divorced!
OW#1 has always been alcohol.

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