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I took my children out for a while, to get them out the house....and walked straight into them. WHY - WHY is it still so hard to see them together. WHY do I still care. The OW immediately turned her head away and grabbed XWH's hand. He then looked away too. Does it EVER get easier? Will it EVER be ok to see them walking hand in hand? I dont know - I just feel so low again. This is NOT how it was supposed to be. My daughter saw her father but also looked away, she says she cant stand to see him with OW and feels that OW is so frumpy and in her (my daughters words) is trying to dress like a tacky teenager.

ughhh, how awful for you.

Remember that they were not holding hands until you showed up. OW's reaction shows that she is insecure about you. I bet she is possessive and jealous as hell. She probably monitors his every move.

Be glad she is his problem now, and you don't have to dress like an 18 year old whore to try to keep a man interested. She knows in her cold black heart that the man that she 'won' is a cheater and a liar and its only a matter of time before she is the BS. Unicorn fart land does not smell like skittles...it smells like unicorn shit.

XWH probably looked away out of shame. His own daughter won't look at him!

Fuck those two losers. This feeling will pass, promise.

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Sorry you had to see them together. Sucks. But- your daughter looked away. I'm guessing she didn't say, "Hi, Dad!" or run up and give him a big ol' hug.

Yeah. That is how shitty his life is. His own daughter didn't acknowledge him.

I don't think it will ever get easier, for me anyway. As long as he is with the OW, I will have a major problem with it. Any other poor victim after her, I wouldn't care in the least.

Bravenewgirl said it all..... OW cannot bear to be seen by YOU because she KNOWS you are so much better than her sorry ass. BNG is right of course, they live in lala land these wretched creatures who think they have 'won' such a wonderful prize. What they have actually won is a lying, cheating tosser they themselves will be watching FOR AS LONG AS THEY ARE TOGETHER! Simple. He did it to you and she knows deep within that it is just a matter of time before she is the next one under the bus, so she clings to him like a vine, scared witless that he's even looking! Hahaha! (sorry, got a bit carried away with the hysterical laughter there)!

Hold your head high. You are the better person, and didn't let the silly pair of shallow, idiotic t***s see your agony. There will come a time my lovely, when you will share happiness with another, and when that happens, those two will have long discovered that some leopards DON'T change their spots, and you will smile inside and out with a full and happy heart.

Your day will come, you just wait and see.

I'm so sorry. I fear the day when I see STBXH with OW. She lives out of state, but he is planning on moving her here. It will be so hurtful to see even though I know she won a loser.

Your poor dd having to see that too. I agree though, that his life has really gone downhill considering his own dd doesn't want to talk to him.

So sorry you saw them together. My WH (pig) brought her to a charity event for an organization that I have volunteered at for several years. He knew that I was going to be there. He even came up to me, said he "just wanted to say Hi" and then shook my hand!! Pig. When I saw the two of them leave together, my heart broke again. It was so painful. I was so devastated to see them together, brought the reality of the affair to the front. So many of my friends there were outraged that he brought her.

The skank did check me out and I just turned my back to her. I am sure she thinks she has won the prize (he spent $ 450.00 at the silent auction for earrings for her, while he has not paid me any spousal support. Swell guy). She knew he was married and she knows that he can and will cheat. She will have to live with that knowledge and know that it is only a matter of time before some other skank will approach him (for his money) and she will be tossed aside.

It sucks and I am so sorry you saw them together. We just have to keep on walking away from them. Hold our heads high. They didn't deserve us, deserve our love or trust.

It is hard to see them together because we would never do that. We would never cheat and lie to the people we love. We took our vows seriously and we have lived in integrity. That's why we don't get it.

I don't even want my ex, but it's still hard to see him with someone else... because I'm alone and he's not. Doesn't seem fair.

[This message edited by Safeguard at 7:14 PM, April 28th (Sunday)]

Well I have been a bit low for a few days since seeing them. It was the first time I saw them alone together in public. I know he is a cheater, but I think knowing that she managed to pull him away from our family and that he gave it up for her will always hurt. He did not fight, he walked. Lol I do think she would have to watch him like a hawk and she is very controlling but clearly the sexual benifits are worth it.

My one friend commented that they can have a 'happy' relationship on weekend as they have 'kid free' time and so can be in lala land. In marriage it was kids 24 7 so it was different. He gets his ego and whatever else stroked nicely on alternate weekends!

Still it was hard - that pod person was my life and I loved him with all I had.