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Today is my twin DD's 9th Birthday.

I normally do everything for their birthday for the last 8 years so why should this be any different?

I got a text from the doosh asking what to get them. I suggested digital cameras. Not too over the top. Not too complicated.

He gets them Nikon waterproof cameras. Ok. Whatever Disney Dad.

I got them a trip to Disney World. I can only afford 4 days but we are going.

Does that make me a Disney Mom?

I was thinking yesterday of all the stuff I had to do last night.

Went to the Drama Club presentation after school for the kids. We didn't get home until 6 pm.

I noticed one DD scratching her hair so I checked and saw lice. Their school has been having an outbreak in the last 2 or 3 weeks and I get notices and have been checking.

It's been coming, I know, but did it have to happen last night? I was pissed.

We went home and I got her shampooed right away. Then I had to strip the beds and put the linen in the washer. I also had to make 24 cupcakes and 2 types of cookies for thier class today.

DD's helped me. The DD with lice knew I was upset so she told me that I was the best Mommy ever and I asked why. She said because I love them soooo much. How can I resist that?

I wanted so much to ask for help but I did it all myself with the girl's help.

I also checked other DD's and my hair for lice and so far no. Whew.

By the time it was 10 they were asleep and I was in the shower scrubbing my hair furiously. Oh I hate lice. DD has had it 3 times, I have had it once and other DD twice I think.

I didn't get to sleep until 11:30 but it's only one day.

I did not need this now. I was trying not to go to that place where I resent him having no responsibilities and everything on my shoulders. It's no use. This is my life now and I have to embrace that.

What a Dooshbag though.

Today will be better though. I am making lasagna for dinner. It's their favourite. I want their birthday to be great.

You are such a great mom. They know how much you love and appreciate them and all the extras that you do to keep them happy and safe.

Have a great time at Disney World.

Hugs!

ETA: My mother always made lasagna for my birthday.

[This message edited by Afraid2LoveAgain at 8:11 AM, April 30th (Tuesday)]

Thanks Afraid, for the response.

Ex loves my lasagna and I am determined that he will never taste it again.

The girls love it too and they deserve to have it for every birthday.

Happy Birthday to your little girls!!!

Enjoy your trip to Disney as well! (And no, you are not a disney mom bc you take care of them day in and day out. You are allowed to have fun with them too).

And I can also commiserate with you. I have my DD about 95% of the time. STBXWH has her for less than 48 hours eow. So I am the one doing everything while working a full time job. I am also looking to go back to school to get my MBA in the fall. I get angry at times bc I feel like I am left with all the work, but I try to reming myself that when she's a great kid it's bc of me.

You too will get to think that - and should already as your girls are older. Believe me, they will know who took care of them and who didn't.

Hugs Lola.

Yes, you have all the responsibility but your children will also know that it's you they can depend upon. I didn't find out about the cheating until fairly late in my children's childhood but they already knew that I was the one that would be there for them come rain or shine. Their father is "fun." He is the source for $. But I am the one they turn to when their heart is broken, or they are scared, or they need emotional support, or they are having a shit day. And the funny thing is, now that they are adults, I can turn to them as well. They support me. It's a beautiful thing. You are building the future for your babies. And oddly for yourself as well. This real relationship will last a lifetime.

Lasagna! The most perfect food.

You can see my profile for my backstory but after we reunited, the Un-ex started getting all misty eyed one night after I made lasagna. When I asked him what was wrong he said he never dreamed he would ever get to eat my lasagna again.

Thanks everyone.

I'm seeing more and more how my girls rely on me and know that I am the one that will always be there for them.

It's a very difficult job but so worth it in the end.

I hope our relationship just grows and grows through the years.

We had the lasagna last night and it was good!!

Unfortunately while checking the girls hair again for lice I found a live one in the other DD's hair. So we spent some time last evening shampooing her hair before bedtime. I felt so bad that she had to go through that on her birthday!

I took them to the park to play on the monkey bars which is their favourite thing to do.

Their dad had called and left a message so I had them call back. I usually listen in on speaker phone and had the pleasure of hearing DD telling him that we are going to Disney World.

Ex dumbass spent 2 weeks in Orlando in December with MOW and her son.

Afraid2Love:

I LOL at your lasagna story. I think ex would cry too if he ever got the chance to eat my lasagna again. Too funny.