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caregiver9000 (original poster member #28622) posted at 10:55 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2013
One of the NB worries (for me for sure) was how I would DO "IT" all alone? "IT" being anything previously delegated as something I couldn't do.... or didn't do.
I have celebrated the stories of others conquering this in so many ways and it is confidence building to hear the success stories.
So here is mine. 
I bought a tv. We graduated from the standard def to HD. After the channels began to scramble ... well, it was time.
I hesitated (months, really! 
and I think fear was part of it. What if I buy the wrong thing? All the connections? cost and size and hertz and pixels, plasma vs. led, lcd, brands.
Well, I did it. I moved the heavy monster sd tv without breaking anything, myself included. I got all the components connected, even the wii which required a hidden menu change after connecting.
I feel so proud and capable. And independent.
DS watched a baby animals show last night and said, "wow. cuteness in HD is REALLY cute!"
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
Survivor3512 ( member #37946) posted at 11:35 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2013
Good for you!! 
Me (BS)- 36
Divorced
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Just keep swimming, just keep swimming- Dorie
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 11:54 PM on Tuesday, April 30th, 2013
Congrats!!! 
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 1:31 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2013
Yay... you're my hero.
Hugs,
K
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
cmego ( member #30346) posted at 1:39 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2013
I've learned to hire people.
Good for you :) We CAN do this...and do it well.
me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced
nutmegkitty ( member #33882) posted at 2:47 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2013
Go you!! HD is freaking awesome.
Me - happy!
2 DDs
Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 3:26 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2013
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
NaiveAgain ( member #20849) posted at 3:41 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2013
Awesome! Sometimes it is figuring out the little things!
Original WS D-Day July 10, 2008. Kept lying, he is gone.
New WS (2 EA's, no PA) 12-3-13
If you don't like where you are, then change it. You are not a tree.
PurpleRose ( member #33129) posted at 4:33 AM on Wednesday, May 1st, 2013
Nice!! I've made a few "big" decisions on my own now and each one is a little easier than the last. I do find myself still thinking about how nice it was to have a partner to bounce those things off of, or who had the expertise to make a sound decision in a certain area.
But the Internet is awesome! My friends, their husbands, and a few new single friends I have made are all super helpful. And if I really can't do it, I hire out!!
Congrats on the new tv!!
divorced the Dooosh 8/13
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Dance like nobody is watching,
Text and email like it will be used in court someday...
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 2:14 AM on Thursday, May 2nd, 2013
DS watched a baby animals show last night and said, "wow. cuteness in HD is REALLY cute!"
Well done, cg!
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 7:51 AM on Thursday, May 2nd, 2013
Woot!
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
dlmos ( member #36839) posted at 1:23 PM on Thursday, May 2nd, 2013
Congratz!
BH (32)
DS - 7, DD - 6
Divorced
wonderingbull ( member #14833) posted at 5:50 PM on Thursday, May 2nd, 2013
The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...
James Taylor
stronggirl72 ( member #37293) posted at 6:55 PM on Thursday, May 2nd, 2013
I love this!!
"Taking the high road, and doing it with class."
DIVORCED!!
Helen of Troy ( member #26419) posted at 1:17 AM on Friday, May 3rd, 2013
Nice! very empowering too.
neverbeokay ( member #8275) posted at 1:36 PM on Friday, May 3rd, 2013
Great job and I know that feeling of - can I do this? - and then, yes I can!!
For me it was buying a "pre-owned" car - never bought any car without a man's help - and negotiating a price that even my nephew who runs a car dealership said was a great deal!
You CAN do it!!
ChoosingHope ( member #33606) posted at 3:01 AM on Saturday, May 4th, 2013
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