this is sort of a follow up to my previous post 2 days ago about what does real remorse look like
Well thanks to his constant excuses for not wanting to talk, and your encouragement, i woke up yesterday morning and asked myself if he was worth it? Worth my asking, pleading? Just worth it. And i'm really wasn't sure. I could leave. I could be free! So for a day i detached.
I was civil and plesant to him in evening but was so busy doing my stuff that i barely paid him any attention and certainly did not pleadingly lead him to the couch for a "conversation".
So what happened? Today, all attentive he was. and later on, he even talked and shared without my having to badger him! I did ask and repeat questions but he did talk.
And I'm still *sort of detaching*. i'm not sure he and our relationship is worth all the work it will take to "fix" it. There are other problems as well unrelated to infidelity although they all might be part of a 'character defect' which i cannot in good self care conscience accept.
Anyway, for those considering a 180, it certainly was an amazing little miracle that got his attention, and FAST too!
[This message edited by TheAgonyOfIt at 3:39 AM, May 8th (Wednesday)]
Me BS 49, ExWS: narcissist! Jekyll Hyde. Left in secret early July, moved states. Left home, job, whole life behind and difficult** adjusting. Dog injured and too much to handle. Supremely bummed out.
