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I wouldn't remove it either. ANY consequences she gets come from HER original choice to be a scum POS whore. How fucking DARE she ask you for consideration of her in anything in life. She's scum, she doesn't deserve your concern or thought.

The fact that her children could POSSIBLY be harmed 1. that's a looooong stretch. Kids don't troll cheaterville, and it's fucking SICKENING to me she'd use her kids to gain sympathy from you. 2.) That is HER fucking fault!!! HERS!!! SHE decided to be the scum whore POS, THAT"S why she's on there.

Wow, that infuriates me for you.

Edit: Just read this:

. I got to see the Karma come around and I got my apology. I feel like I can move forward.

Good, very good for you. Sounds like you're gaining a little closure.

[This message edited by windowsnotwalls at 4:48 PM, May 13th (Monday)]

I say crickets. Don't even lower yourself to respond to her message.

Actions have consequences.

BTW, just checked Cheaterville, & OW in our situation has been searched for 67 times!

[This message edited by mchercheur at 4:48 PM, May 13th (Monday)]

I too posted on a similar site in a moment of blinding rage. Named her, her position and company - and city. The day it went up I was in a panic. I included just the right tidbits to identify myself - I tried frantically to have it removed and the site just ignored me!

But now, all these months later, I'm good with it. If you're ashamed of your behaviour, don't engage in it! I had a text exchange with her shortly after dday2. I told her if she ever had contact with H again - date, text, call - I would report her drug use with her DD to CPS, I would inform her employer of her drug use at work (and identify her dealers) and let her SO know everything I did - evidence included. Her reply? "whatever you gotta do is fine with me. Grow up and stop treating your H like a 2 yr old"- she then continued to text my H for 2 weeks until he changed his cell number. Well she gave me permission to do whatever I had to - and posting this tribute on the Internet seemed to fit the bill.

Leave it up! Let it be a constant reminder that actions come with consequences!

You don't have to be on the Cheaterville website to find someone.

Cheaterville uses full names and towns/cities, with States. You google anyone's name on that site and it comes right up on Google, usually on the first page.

No missing it if you are posted on there, or if your spouse or SO is. Especially if a location is used or they have an unusual name.

I like this. I like it a lot. It's almost like we're all on the same team here, and our team just scored a point, putting us in the lead. So with that, here is my high five and don't take it down.

NDY!!!

There's a good idea from PhillyGirl at the end of page two. She advises about harrassment worry and that stands out for me, as a constant thought in my own "situation".

It really, really helps with the NC issue to remind myself that they could turn on me, as Perv has done with some other things, and push the harrassment button.

Something that was hard to learn also, at the beginning, is that if R doesn't work and D comes, many of these things people save and dish out in legal offices and courtrooms and one never knows what people will try for "evidence" about a point that's really important to them.

It took a little bit to realize that these people-Perv and OW-truly are against me even though I did nothing and this OW is the same. As long as WH may be hiding something -OW-he doesn't have your best interest at heart, either.

So, please do as you feel right for yourself but also, I hope that you will be able proceed with thought and caution. I keep a picture of a road in the sky in my mind all the time as remembrance of the high road. Sometimes it's kept me in check.

I would honestly delete her e-mail and move on.

I would not remove it.

Those who have nothing to hide, hide nothing. If she didn't want her father, etc... to find out about her disgusting behavior, she shouldn't have done it. This is not YOUR fault for posting the truth, it is hers.

Her kids probably will never see your post. Why would they be looking for their mother on cheaterville? She is using that as an excuse because she is embarrassed.

Delete her e-mail, block her, and continue to move on with your healing.

While it is not hour responsibility to cover her betrayal., you have to ask yourself: how would you feel if you found out in a few months that her kids found out and were being teased at school?

screw her, she didn't care anything about you or your kids. But you don't want to do anything that will emotionally weigh you down.

Cant believe she has the audacity to bring kids into it now. Ha!

I see no problem with exposing who someone really is publicly.

Ive actually learned that people who do bad things try to keep that part of a life secret from public.Sometimes they need their mask taken off to face who they truly are.

Its the truth if her kids see well then they know the truth about her. you didnt make it up. How it affects her kids is her fault because she decided to be a cheater not you.

GIVE HER CRICKETS!!

I wouldn't remove shit.

DO NOT REMOVE IT

She made her bed now have her lay in it. Block any future contact with her. Now continue to move on

I wouldn't remove it and now that I now about Cheaterville I'm considering doing the same.

She knew about you and chose to hurt you. That's not OK. It gives me strength that you stood up for yourself against this OW who chose to come in to your life and cause destruction and pain.

Her choices. Her mess to clean up.

I got to see the Karma come around and I got my apology. I feel like I can move forward.

This is more than many of us will see or get. I am happy for you and hope that you keep moving forward in a positive manner no matter the outcome.

Do I remove it?

Do I use it to extract information from her? (I know there is more that WH hasn't told me about, I just quit asking because it doesn't make a difference, I got the important pieces I needed)

Do I apolgize?

Does she get crickets?

You certainly DO NOT apologize to her. I don't care how remorseful she claims to be.

I say she gets crickets. She doesn't get to F with your life and then say how you react.

And if she ever contacts you again, you can make a simple reply and say "You F'd with my life, you don't get a say in this. F off and never contact me again"