It does not work in my situation.
HELP!
Drop off kids for his visit, I was there on time, exactly on time! Because there is an unusual situation one kid was not returned to school on Monday and one was. School kid arrived late (this has become habit on his once a month weekend visit she gets to school late and OWNW or him or both of them will take her out early, before school ends for the day). I said he could have leeway for Monday drop but I needed communication of the time. He said a time that wasn't convenient but thought I could manage. He arrives 45 minutes after that time and a very slow goodbye to nonschool kid, including getting cat out of carrier for her to pet and other drag ons, ownw making loud kissing sounds on non school kids cheek. I get to work very late, embarrassed and not able to explain what really happened because I like my privacy.
He emails me and says I was late to drop off Friday. I absolutely WAS NOT!
He then goes on to say that I blocked schoolkid from contacting him on Wednesday. Again this is a total lie.
Each email he sends to me is accusatory and bitter. He screams about "not being kept informed"
He takes no interest in discussion about their school unless it is something to scold me about. He will not have a discussion about their issues like that only blame to me, no insight no requests, nothing! Refuses to use online calendar because "It doesn't say so in agreement so I don't have to!!"
Tries to create his own financing since I got an interest free if paid within months dental plan for the kids. Therefore his fuzzy math says he only has to pay me for that in monthly installments.
Will someone offer me some tips in dealing with him? I stay unemotional and businesslike. It doesn't work.
I try being cordial or flexible, doesn't work. He takes advantage then lies. He takes advantage knowing I will get reprimanded at work. He knows that as a single mom trying to get kids to therapy TWICE a week plus dentist, plus med management, we are always on the run, always on a schedule. In exchange for cordial and flexibility he took advantage.
All of this criticism of me from him, the one kid buys into. Yet, she will make excuses for him for any wrongdoing. This man lives his whole life making excuses and people buy it. They buy it if they're a kid or they buy into it if they don't know him.
It's fucking EXHAUSTING. I don't show my anger to him or around kids.
Please do not suggest contacting my lawyer because paying her is making me poor. I am not as fortunate as some to have a badass lawyer to help me with all of these issues, some are smallies.