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cali1002 (original poster new member #39270) posted at 4:49 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2013
My H insists that a very close friendship was never physical. I’m not sure I believe him. Any ideas on how to find out the truth? If I ask he says they were just friends. My story is on my profile. It is a little long, but will provide more details.
Me - BS 44
Him - WH 52
Kids - 11 and 12
DDay - May 2012
Married 14 years
In Reconciliation
somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 6:39 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2013
..from your profile, i see a man who has been chasing anything in a skirt, trying to get some on the side..
..and using his position in the workplace to manipulate his co-workers.
..too many instances of 'other' women and he's playng the 'just friends' card to explain it away!!
..i'd call bullshit to his denials..
so sorry you are here.. 
smy
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
cali1002 (original poster new member #39270) posted at 7:08 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2013
Thanks, somany. It seems like I want to believe that there isn't more, but the pieces don't really support that. I don't know. But why should I stay with him if there is more? I don't want to be married to a slim ball. Our kids would be devastated if we split up.
Me - BS 44
Him - WH 52
Kids - 11 and 12
DDay - May 2012
Married 14 years
In Reconciliation
pewpewpew ( member #38116) posted at 8:16 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2013
They are always "just friends".
Even with solid proof - they try to minimize and go into damage control.
I'm so sorry you have found yourself here.
BS - 32
DDay 1: July 2012 - EA with COW
DDay 2: March 2015; same COW
Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, pack your shit and get out.
Fool me twice, now what?!?!
libertyrocks ( member #38924) posted at 9:55 PM on Tuesday, May 21st, 2013
That's what my H said. Just friends. The next week, oh, they had sex once. 3 months later, 5 OW PA's in 2 years. Then, just a month ago, 7OW in 3 years with a LTA of over a year.
Sorry, you're here with us.
Me-37 Ws-37
2 kids
Dday Nov 2012, TT for a year.
Reconciling for the third time in 4 years.
avicarswife ( member #35799) posted at 2:56 AM on Wednesday, May 22nd, 2013
There is always a polygraph. If he is telling the truth I would think he would jump at the opportunity.
If he agrees - make sure you follow through.
On D-day:BS 46 (me)WH 50
Toasted22M 26 yrs,3 kids (16-24) at discovery. D-Days 2012 23-24 May + TT D-Day 2013 12 Apr
mOW #1 EA yrs PA Feb 2009-end 2011
mOW #2 EA months PA 4 mths 2010
mOW#3 PA once
2022 Separated
OptimisticWife ( member #36587) posted at 11:23 AM on Wednesday, May 22nd, 2013
My H was claiming "just friends" also. He probably never would have admitted the truth.
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