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Reconciliation :
I hate running scared

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 CLRhope4her (original poster member #37243) posted at 6:10 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013

My WH and I had plans to get new parts for our BBQ at Lowes today. We live in the same small town with no other options unless driving to a city 30 miles away as the OW. We pull in and guess whose car is there? So we pull out and go home. I hate hiding. I hate running. But I guess in order to never see my ex BFF/ow I will have to do that for the rest of my life. I didn't do anything wrong but it feels like I get the punishment alot.

BW- Me 35 & WH- Him 38
OW- My BFF for 25 years
DDay- 6/28/12 Final truth- 7/28/12
“We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.”

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silverhopes ( member #32753) posted at 7:29 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013

That's a horrible feeling. You can't control it or change it, though - you shouldn't have to face her after she caused you so much pain. That's keeping a boundary that keeps you emotionally safe. Was your H supportive?

Aut viam inveniam aut faciam.

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 CLRhope4her (original poster member #37243) posted at 8:35 PM on Saturday, May 25th, 2013

He really was. He pulled right out and we drove to a different store to try to find parts. He says he hates he was a part of anything that makes me hide-especially from someone who used to be my best friend.

BW- Me 35 & WH- Him 38
OW- My BFF for 25 years
DDay- 6/28/12 Final truth- 7/28/12
“We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.”

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wantingtotrust ( member #6313) posted at 4:18 PM on Sunday, May 26th, 2013

I am so sorry you are going through this. It sucks how much their actions affect from day to day things to major events!

The good news is it sounds like he handled it very well so that is a good sign!

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