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lostinlv (original poster member #31663) posted at 5:31 PM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
Hi all. :) Not sure if some of you remember me, but thought i'd pop in and update and check in on some of you and see how things are going. :)
I finally decided that I was DONE and in December asked STBX for a D. Woot! It will be final in about a week. YEAH!
He decided to leave his job here and move to Colorado with his girlfriend. Yep. I found out that the skank he supposedly had a "one night stand" with in 94/95 when I was pregnant with my oldest daughter, he actually had at least a 2-3 year long steady relationship with, and they have been "off and on" since then!!! NINETEEN YEARS! Plus there were all the others as well... OY VEY!! I'm SO glad I finally got the guts to end it. What a douche.
I am moving to the Oregon Coast in about 2 weeks and am SO HAPPY!! Seriously - if I would have known how happy I was going to be without the asshat I would have done this a LONG time ago. I let fear control me. NO MORE. 
me, BS-43
him,FWH-42
4 kids (22,20,16,12)
DDay#1 2/?/97 (A with COW in 1995- turns out it never really ended and they are now living together)
DDay#2 4/18/10 -LTA approx 12mos
DIVORCED!!
dmari ( member #37215) posted at 5:33 PM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
Love. Your. Post. Thank you for sharing and best wishes to you!!
GabyBaby ( member #26928) posted at 5:39 PM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
Congrats on taking control of your life, Lost!
Me - late 40s
DD(27), DS(24, PDD-NOS)
WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).
I edit often for clarity/typos.
lostmommy ( member #33440) posted at 6:14 PM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
Congratulations! Sounds like your new beginning is a fantastic one!
Me (BS): 32, Mommy to J: 2 1/2 Divorced: 4/10/13
Sometimes you find yourself in the middle of nowhere, and sometimes, in the middle of nowhere, you find yourself
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 6:16 PM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
Lost! Holy Cats - now THAT's an update.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 6:56 PM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
Awesome! Love it! Congrats! 
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
cayc ( member #21964) posted at 7:05 PM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
The thrill of D'ing and getting away from a philandering, manipulative con-artist. I know it well Awesome lucky you with the new move. I predict a fabulous NB for you and can't wait to hear about it.
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 11:41 PM on Wednesday, May 29th, 2013
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
stronggirl72 ( member #37293) posted at 1:01 AM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
I am SO HAPPY for you. Its a great place to be, and you did it!!
"Taking the high road, and doing it with class."
DIVORCED!!
lostinlv (original poster member #31663) posted at 5:33 PM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
Thank you so much, everyone... now to get all of my stuff sorted and packed for the move. Douchebag moved and left it up to me to sort out EVERYTHING here. Not sure why i'm surprised... 
me, BS-43
him,FWH-42
4 kids (22,20,16,12)
DDay#1 2/?/97 (A with COW in 1995- turns out it never really ended and they are now living together)
DDay#2 4/18/10 -LTA approx 12mos
DIVORCED!!
scotslass ( member #39204) posted at 6:28 PM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
Congrats lostinlv!
It's kind of bittersweet to have this new beginning.
I moved out of our marital home last summer and into a much smaller home and I am in the process of painting the interior of our home and planting a perennial garden.
One of the most enjoyable things for me is to pick my own color scheme for the interior and exterior!! I take my small pleasures where I can get them but I have to say I am so loving these "small" things.
Embrace your new life!!
Me. - moving on and upward !!!
Beautymark ( new member #36952) posted at 2:43 PM on Friday, May 31st, 2013
Hi lostinlv,
I sent you a private message about your move to OR.
Hope to hear from you. If I don't, good luck with everything and I hope you find what you are looking for.
Me-BS, early 40's
Him-fWH, early 40's
Married 8 yrs, 6-yr-old DD
DDay#1-November 2011 - one woman (for almost 5 years)
DDay#2-December 2011 - two more women (one lasting about 1.5yrs and the other lasting about 1 year)
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