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cayc (original poster member #21964) posted at 2:07 PM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
So remember how I posted back in April that I was pulling back to focus on me. That I was going to just focus on CrossFit, get myself some asocial needlework projects and was going to take down my OLD profile? Remember that?
Well, I did recommit to CrossFit (& my fave trainer returned which helped, I had unwittingly been missing his encouragement), and I started a Sunday lifting clinic at my house for my colleagues. I've held 3 sessions so far and everyone has really enjoyed them. And I bought a bunch of needlework projects, completing 2 small ones (a card for my mom for mother's day and a tea towel with a hummingbird design on it that now hangs on the handle of my stove).
And then, I logged in to take down my OLD profile and up pops this guy with a cute smile and interesting tattoos that lives close by. So I clicked on it. And weirdly, the profile now says he lives 1000s of miles away. But I read the profile anyway and he mentioned this funny little food preference that I have and it made me laugh so I sent him a quick note saying why I found his profile, too bad he wasn't close by, like the tats, I have this weird little food preference too so I hope you have a good day. Really, I was just thinking, hey, if it makes him smile then that's good, right?
Well he replied immediately. Turns out he was moving to my area. So we spent several weeks chatting via the OLD site, then moved to email, text, phone and then finally, I met him last weekend. And swoon. I'm smitten. This feels different than everything that has come before. And it isn't that I think he's perfect. But I do think he may very well be perfect for me. I briefly told him about my M, the D, and a legacy issue related to it and he just accepted me anyway. The whole mess of xWH became a non-issue, no longer part of my story, no longer something that defines me. And I realize it's true. It likely happened before I met this man, but being around him showed me it was true.
He has been so accepting of me. So respectful. So kind. So open. I could type pages about the conversations, the sharing, how good it feels to be around someone who only wants to get to know me. There's no other angle there. I'm not filling some slot that he has open.
We're seeing each other this weekend too. I was going to wait to post until after that, but honestly I just couldn't wait to share. You all have been so awesome to me & have helped me through so many dark days. So I wanted you all to know that I've got some sunny days too. I am positively giddy right now. And I've never felt this way about a man before. Not like this. This is all new, wonderfully strange, and very welcome. Thank god I met him now and not in the midst of my D when I was thinking I was ready to date, but wasn't. The timing for all of this could not be better. Is it tomorrow yet? I cannot wait to see this man again!
gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 2:25 PM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
Yay for you!!! This is great news cayc! Thanks for sharing.
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 2:36 PM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 2:42 PM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
Yay! 
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 2:47 PM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
fraeuken ( member #30742) posted at 3:31 PM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
Feels great, doesn't it. And when you least expect it. Good for you! Enjoy.
Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.
She11ybeanz ( member #27457) posted at 3:35 PM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
This is so awesome! I'm so happy for you and this gives me lots and LOTS of hope that I might find someone amazing in my future..... be it next week or next decade! 
"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12
roughroadahead ( member #36060) posted at 3:44 PM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
All that good news is only a *little* squee?
Congrats, it's awsome how sometimes, everything just falls into place.
BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism
cayc (original poster member #21964) posted at 3:58 PM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
All that good news is only a *little* squee?
Ok, it's true, it's a BIG squee 
wonderingbull ( member #14833) posted at 4:30 PM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
Go girl go!
WB
The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time...
James Taylor
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 4:31 PM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
Ok, it's true, it's a BIG squee
Yay!!! Can't wait to hear the update from this weekend! You deserve it lady - enjoy!!!
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
Spirit13 ( member #31758) posted at 4:55 PM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
Men were deceivers ever; one foot in sea and one on shore, to one thing constant never.
Crescita ( member #32616) posted at 5:00 PM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
Big squee from me! So happy for you!
“Happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue.” ― Viktor E. Frankl, Man's Search for Meaning
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 6:31 PM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
This is so exciting! I'm happy for you. Hope you have a fantastic weekend. Looking forward to hearing the update!! 
Failure is success if we learn from it.
better4me ( member #30341) posted at 7:09 PM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
Very, very happy for you!! WOOHOO!
DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!
stronggirl72 ( member #37293) posted at 7:12 PM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
I am so happy for you.
"Taking the high road, and doing it with class."
DIVORCED!!
bitchboots ( member #38051) posted at 7:55 PM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
That is amazing! Have fun this weekend and keep us posted!
Me: BS
DDay 4/27/2012---3 weeks after our 10 year anniversary.
Second DDay--1/2/2013--R is over
~~~~Finding my moxie~~~~
"May your past be the sound of your feet upon the ground"...FUN
Luvlyla ( member #38692) posted at 10:50 PM on Thursday, May 30th, 2013
Brilliant!
I so needed to hear some good New beginning stories So glad the summer weather seems to be bringing out the friskiness woop!
When he's your Romeo,
and you're not his Juliet,
it means you are Rosaline
- and you survive the play.
kernel ( member #27035) posted at 12:56 AM on Friday, May 31st, 2013
"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good."
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 2:37 AM on Friday, May 31st, 2013
yay!!!
Uh....does he have a brother that is maybe 1000 miles away from you?
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
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